Hello John and Marsha, > I can relate Marsha. I don't do affirmation very well either. > > On Sat, Apr 10, 2010 at 2:13 PM, MarshaV <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Hello John, > > > > I can become miffed if told I'm wrong, but I feel absolutely > mortified to > > be told I'm right. > > > I read a bit Garrison Keillor did once on midwestern deflection - those > people can't take a compliment - they always divert it or deny it - "I > love > your dress".... "This old thing?". > > He says it has it's roots not in true modesty, but wanting to be seen > as > modest and also because such people are really craving affirmation so > much, > that a slight compliment is never enough. They say, "It was nothing > really" > But what they actually want is to be crowned Sun God. They want to > say > "Rise my people, lift your faces from the carpet. Look me in the > face." > [Mary Replies] I was always in the Marsha camp on this, feeling very uncomfortable with compliments until one day it occurred to me that it's part of the social dance. A compliment requires a gracious acceptance because if you fail to do that you are in effect questioning the judgment of the complimentor (sp?). To accept a compliment is to give one in return.
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