My take on this comes from the ones I see really suffering in the whole equation - the kids.
The only people who had no choice in the decision to marry in the first place, no choice in being born into the situation, no choice in the hell their lives become when the two most important people in their lives decide to toss it all away. This counts, also, to kids born without the benefit of two committed, present parents. The confusion, pain and consequences are not mitigated by the increase in statistics. Every kid knows someone who's parents are divorced. Every kid dreads that it will be theirs next. Marriage is for the kids (if there are no kids involved, then seek the almighty Romance to your hearts content). Marriage is worth keeping; being committed, all the hard work, and time invested in another person is worth it. The benefits are immeasurable! My character is more deeply developed by learning to deal with this other in my life, by learning to cooperate, to communicate, to compromise, to put someone else above myself (this, of course, is reciprocal). The kids benefit from seeing these principle put into action, seeing conflict resolved, and they go into their own lives equipped with better tools for living higher quality lives. Parenting is easier to do together, grand-parenting is easier to do together. I have been married to John for going on 22 years. He is my first, and only, lover. He knows my body - I can't imagine trying to teach someone else. I'm a difficult person to please! He knows all the stories, and we can exchange a look and just know, because we were both there, because we went through it together, because we got through it together. Some might consider it boring to already know everything, and want to seek the excitement of the new - but with a little imagination that can be done right where you are! Someone said you only enter a contract with a person you don't trust - and that seems sad to me. Do coyotes "enter a contract" when they mate for life? My parents mated for life, I knew I would, too. I am monogamous, as is John, and perhaps not everyone is, but in my opinion that is more a result of a deteriorating (de-volving) society, than anything inborn. And it will result in collapse. Kids are hurting themselves - cutters, multiple piercing's in sensitive places, sex and drugs at a very early age - these are the desperate please of young people who have no trust because the two people who should have cared about them, more than they cared about themselves, betrayed them. Lu coming out of hiding for the important issues... Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org/md/archives.html
