Around Sunday, October 17, 2004, 11:36:02 PM, Ken Boucher wrote:
>> I value honesty a great deal, but I think I've found something that
>> I value more than it: respect. Honesty and respect rarely conflict,
>> but when they do, I'll choose the course which respects the
>> person I'm interacting with. I think that covers the "does this
>> dress look good on me" scenario.
> While I like how that sounds, I've seen respect, especially the demand
> for respect, used as a weapon and a tool for not listening to honest
> feedback way too often.
> Given a choice between honesty and respect, I'll choose honesty.
> I'll take respect when I see it and give it when I can, but if it
> becomes a barrier to communication between equals then it becomes
> disserving.
Michael, of course, is talking about giving and showing respect, not
demanding it. Can you give an example of a time when honesty might trump
showing respect, in your view?
Ron Jeffries
www.XProgramming.com
You do ill if you praise, but worse if you censure,
what you do not understand. --Leonardo da Vinci
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