Not defending the lack of catch-up before posting, but the OQ was of morally-based opinion - and everyone likes to share those.
To add something not particularly opinionated, a lawyer friend cautioned about the usefulness of such obtained information as well as the personal litigation that you open yourself up to by facilitating and cooperating in such acts - also include the fact that it was done in the capacity of an "IT Manager" who altered a system security policy solely for the purpose of introducing this "invasion of assumed privacy" element, which then in-turn exposes the company as well. Laws are different state-to-state and can legally be interpreted slightly different judge-to-judge, but most[1] Family Court judges dont care about proof of cheating unless there is a prenuptial agreement that lists separation penalties. 1. This is the personal experience and knowledge of my lawyer friend who also notes: Although, there are some remaining states that do not observe or have not officially become no-fault states regarding divorce - and will hold a "cheating" party at fault. But for the most of the country, cheating is not a "crime" and is not against common laws. Personal Note: I am not a lawyer, and non of this should be construed as legal advice. I recommend that OP contact the HR department of their company, advise them of what has been done and that an employee is seeking to "trap" an opposing party that they are engaged in active litigation against; using company equipment. HR should then in-turn seek the legal council that is retained by their company. Do not get your company involved in anything like this - regardless of your personal feelings as a "man" or as a "friend". Get yourself involved in anything like this is ill-advised as well. Be supportive, but not active. -- ME2 On Fri, Apr 16, 2010 at 9:25 AM, Peter van Houten <[email protected]>wrote: > Agreed! > > All the holier-than-thou replies *after* the OP told us that the problem > was sorted (in the same post, so no time zone problems there...) are far > to holy for me :-) > > After all, we're here to help! > > Have a good weekend all. > > -- > Peter van Houten > > > Sherry Abercrombie wrote the following: > >> Maybe they should catch up before they comment...... >> >> On Fri, Apr 16, 2010 at 11:02 AM, Webster <[email protected] <mailto: >> [email protected]>> wrote: >> >> Not all list members are in the US or the same time zones as we >> Yanks are. Give others time to catch up. >> >> >> >> Webster >> >> >> *From:* Eric Brouwer [mailto:[email protected] >> <mailto:[email protected]>] >> *Subject:* Re: Ethics issue >> >> >> Guys, I think he gets it. You guys would have handled it >> differently. Great. Maybe it was a friend of his he was trying to >> help. Who knows. He got a lot of good feedback. Can we let it go >> now? >> >> >> >> >> >> >> -- >> Sherry Abercrombie >> >> "Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic." >> Arthur C. Clarke >> >> >> >> > > ~ Finally, powerful endpoint security that ISN'T a resource hog! ~ > ~ <http://www.sunbeltsoftware.com/Business/VIPRE-Enterprise/> ~ > ~ Finally, powerful endpoint security that ISN'T a resource hog! ~ ~ <http://www.sunbeltsoftware.com/Business/VIPRE-Enterprise/> ~
