Re: [ozmidwifery] Sleep Baby Sleep

[Pinky McKay]

YUk!!! Sounds cruel and a rip off to me - have you seen the Australian association of Infant mental health policy on controlled crying (settling techniques included) -I have a copy if anyone wants to email me offlist (so I can attach). I will try and get it onto my website soon.   BTW - they recommend my books as an alternative to CC.   I had a mum at my infant massage class last week - with a beautiful 3 month old - very upset and confused as her MCH had told her her baby a) should be sleeping longer (and alone - she co-sleeps) b) she shouldnt allow him to fall asleep in the sling and c) if he breastfeeds to sleep this will cause insomnia as he will wake -ALL NIGHT - seeking a breast.Thankfully there was a wonderfully sensible mum of a seven month old whose baby had just gently weaned off bedtime booby who was able to reinforce that the baby knows what it is ready for  - without force. We talked about how mothers can nurture themselves/ pressures/ make life simpler etc -then I gave homework - a "jarmy/ cocoon day" - feedback was very positive about how much they struggled with pressure to be superwoman - and how much it really didnt matter that they left the dishes etc - it was all still there or not important once they did get back into things.   I am sure many of these mums are just very pressured that their babies are not behaving "properly" - there is a lot of performance anxiety rather than actual exhaustion, and if exhaustion is the case - why? What is the mother trying to do as well as mother and bond with her baby? -especially when many of these bubs are less than 6 weeks old - the traditional lying in time. Could the mother have PND and all theblame is being laid on the baby? How can the mum nurture herself and could she try some gentle techniques to help baby sleep a bit "better" - ie massage/ relaxation bath/ 'topup feed' last thing before she goes to bed -without waking baby (breastmilk if bub is breastfed), minimising stimulation at bedtime - how many mums have TV on  -this is a bombardmernt of new-born senses? Examine mums diet - ??high in salicylates/ caffeine etc which could make bub restless. ?Food intolerance.   There are lots of simple commonsense things that should be passed on mother to mother without charging $500 - It really shows that not only birth and breastfeeding, but infant sleep management is medicalised as well -  Im not having a go at LCs here -I just feel we can see things as problematic when it should all be a natural process; I feel the need for breastfeeding intervention is real but likely due to issues surrounding birth - ?? are all these things a follow-on from managed birth -are we all that desperate for control? - and, would surrendering at birth help mothers surrender to the natural forces of mothering? I believe it would.   Pinky www.pinky-mychild.com ----- Original Message ----- From: hplerchbacher To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Sunday, June 22, 2003 9:47 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] Sleep Baby Sleep Dear Wise Listers,   Has anyone heard of this program called "Sleep Baby Sleep". One of the woman emailed someone and had quote of this superb course to positive routine management for $500. Please check out the website www.sleepbabysleep.net   I told the woman and her husband to utilise local support instead. Is this a scam?   Ping   --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.490 / Virus Database: 289 - Release Date: 16/06/2003