----- Original Message -----
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 9:06 AM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Sleep Baby
Sleep
YUk!!!
Sounds cruel and a rip off to me - have you seen
the Australian association of Infant mental health policy on controlled crying
(settling techniques included) -I have a copy if anyone wants to email me
offlist (so I can attach). I will try and get it onto my website
soon.
BTW - they recommend my books as an alternative
to CC.
I had a mum at my infant massage class last week
- with a beautiful 3 month old - very upset and confused as her MCH had told
her her baby a) should be sleeping longer (and alone - she co-sleeps) b)
she shouldnt allow him to fall asleep in the sling and c) if he breastfeeds to
sleep this will cause insomnia as he will wake -ALL NIGHT - seeking a
breast.Thankfully there was a wonderfully sensible mum of a seven month old
whose baby had just gently weaned off bedtime booby who was able to reinforce
that the baby knows what it is ready for - without force. We talked
about how mothers can nurture themselves/ pressures/ make life
simpler etc -then I gave homework - a "jarmy/ cocoon day" - feedback
was very positive about how much they struggled with pressure to be superwoman
- and how much it really didnt matter that they left the dishes etc - it was
all still there or not important once they did get back into
things.
I am sure many of these mums are just very
pressured that their babies are not behaving "properly" - there is a lot
of performance anxiety rather than actual exhaustion, and if exhaustion is the
case - why? What is the mother trying to do as well as mother and bond with
her baby? -especially when many of these bubs are less than 6 weeks old - the
traditional lying in time. Could the mother have PND and all theblame is being
laid on the baby? How can the mum nurture herself and could she try some
gentle techniques to help baby sleep a bit "better" - ie massage/ relaxation
bath/ 'topup feed' last thing before she goes to bed -without waking
baby (breastmilk if bub is breastfed), minimising stimulation at bedtime
- how many mums have TV on -this is a bombardmernt of new-born senses?
Examine mums diet - ??high in salicylates/ caffeine etc which could make
bub restless. ?Food intolerance.
There are lots of simple commonsense things that
should be passed on mother to mother without charging $500 - It really shows
that not only birth and breastfeeding, but infant sleep management is
medicalised as well - Im not having a go at LCs here -I just feel we can
see things as problematic when it should all be a natural process; I feel the
need for breastfeeding intervention is real but likely due
to issues surrounding birth - ?? are all these things a follow-on from
managed birth -are we all that desperate for control? - and, would
surrendering at birth help mothers surrender to the natural forces of
mothering? I believe it would.
Pinky
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Sunday, June 22, 2003 9:47
PM
Subject: [ozmidwifery] Sleep Baby
Sleep
Dear Wise Listers,
Has anyone heard of this program called "Sleep
Baby Sleep". One of the woman emailed someone and had quote of this superb
course to positive routine management for $500. Please check out the website
www.sleepbabysleep.net
I told the woman and her husband to utilise
local support instead. Is this a scam?
Ping
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