Sounds great Cas - fingers crossed for you . You are right - there is a lot more to parenting, but I have a sneaking supicion that you might be able to get away with a little bit more "benevolent neglect" (read, less daytime demands) if kids have that night time closeness -if that is what they want.
Re - I don't actually know too many adults or children > that seem affected by the fact their parents made them sleep in a cot > when they were babies We really can't measure things like trust and empathy that are prerequisites for forming relationships, so we cant really unequivocally say "people arent affected" just as we cant say there is no harm in letting babies "cry it out". Actually there is a vast difference between no proof of harm and "proof of no harm" - perhaps a bit of night time closeness is easy insurance that needs are met, whether we can prove this or not. Maybe if we had this closeness when we were babies and children, we wouldnt find it so stressful to meet our babies and children's needs -unconditionally and without ambivalence. best wishes with the sleep. Pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: "Wayne and Cas" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Friday, March 19, 2004 9:18 AM Subject: [ozmidwifery] sleep stuff > Well, we tried the side car thing last night and he went down without > any hassles at 8.30, then woke up at 10pm so I fed him and gently rolled > him over to the cot and he didn't stir until 5am this morning. So far so > good. It was the best night's sleep I've had in weeks. Thanks for all of > your suggestions. > > I wanted to add though that sleeping with children and babies is not > right for everyone.. There is a lot more to parenting than whether you > co-sleep or not. Ie. If you don't love your kids unconditionally, no > amount of co-sleeping is going to give the added security a child needs. > I think we are all individuals and so are our children and we just need > to work out what best suits them. When Liam was the same age as Daniel > he was very hands off, didn't want hugs, didn't want the breast a lot > and it hurt me at the time but it was what he needed. Daniel is a > totally different baby. > > I will let you know if our good fortune last night continues. > > Cheers Cas. > > Cas, Wayne, Liam and Daniel McCullough > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > www.casmccullough.com > > > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
