We go 'everywhere' I can get in! There are a lot of training opportunities there too. I have a mini-agility pattern next to a major sidewalk--its 2 sets of 3 benches close enough to each other that the dog can go over the first 3, jump off and run to the second set. Sabre got bored after doing it twice, so when he got to the end of the second set I would say 'whoooe' and he would stop and I would let him look around for a while. These benches are in a semi circle and I was begining to stay more in the middle so the dog was basically working by himself with voice command. While Sabre would be looking around, sometimes a man would come up and talk to me, but have never had a man act interested in 'me'. They would ask questions about the dog, then move on.
I have been in bed a lot with pressure sores too. Can't very well meet men that way. All my attendants are female. I did finally join a few on line dating sites urged on by a 'friend' who shall remain nameless until I find out more about this man! he! he! Someone did respond to my profile and actually lives in the same state. He has been in the medical field, sales of ortho-pedic supplies, but found that was not really for him after several years and now drives an over the road truck. Since he has been around all types of disabled people it does not bother him at all. We are supposed to have lunch this coming week. Aaack! We have talked on the phone once, for 3 hours!--good thing it was his nickle.
But, it does seem everywhere I go its either with family, or only ladies are there--like at dog training classes. If the occassional man that would be there is already married. Got someone to finally drive me to dog class and back, very nice man, but married. She had some hidden disabilities so he was at ease around me.
I go on a state long Trail that runs across the state, but the 'leg' I go on is a spur and not a whole lot of people are on it when I am. Get plenty of 'hi's' etc., but thats all.
The few male nurses I have had over the years are either gay or married. I go to the street festivals, art shows that are outside. I get around, just not the right places. I really should start to go to church again. The one I grew up in is only 2 blocks away and is finally accessible--I think
they put an elevator in when they demolished the entire middle of the church and rebuilt it. A Catholic church is even closer, a methodist church is 2 blocks away . I have no excuse for not going except laziness and wanting to sit in front of this machine!
I have not gone out of my way to meet someone, but have not been hiding too much either.
I don't know. I guess I believe if its going to happen, it will happen. At anyrate I wish everyone on this list:
HAPPY HOLIDAYS! take care,
Dana and ?
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----- Original Message ----- From: "Martin T. Brown" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: "Stacy Harim" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; "Steve Oldaker" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; "andrea murray" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Cc: <[email protected]>
Sent: Wednesday, December 22, 2004 2:52 AM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Frustration
[quote] Men are superficial. They just think we can't have sex, therefore they can't get off. [/quote]
Stacy don't swing this term above imposing that all men are superficial, we are not.
QuadMedic
----- Original Message ----- From: Stacy Harim
To: Steve Oldaker ; andrea murray
Cc: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, December 22, 2004 10:05 AM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Frustration
What my friend Andrea said is so true. I'm in the prime of my life at 30. I'm not a beauty queen, but I think that I am an attractive person. I used to get hit on all the time. Some of you guys talk about how you have had girlfriends, partners, wives. A lot of women like men in chairs because they feel less threatened. Men are superficial. They just think we can't have sex, therefore they can't get off. I go out on occasion. Before I got sick I used to get hit on all the time and get drinks bought for me. Since I got sick, I haven't had someone I don't know buy me a drink since I got sick. Socializing and talking to new people is not a problem and I am a very approachable person. I have a good time, dance, and smile while I am out. We never sit at a table. We are always at the bar or in the general area. Never have our backs to people. I know the chances of meeting my soul mate in a bar aren't good, but damn, they don't even look twice.
It's funny, we went to a customer appreciation party at a rest/club/bar. They had a DJ. My friends and I were up there dancing and some woman came up and started dancing with me, holding my hands and treating me like I was mentally disabled. Telling my friend who is also a girl how pretty I was. It was so funny. I was cracking up. Trying to pull my hands away, she wouldn't let me. Was pretty strange.
Just a funny story to share. My Gift to you,
Stacy
----- Original Message ----- From: andrea murray
To: Steve Oldaker
Cc: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, December 21, 2004 10:09 PM
Subject: RE: [QUAD-L] Frustration
Billy,
Sexual frustration is the big problem for me too. First of all be being a women with a disability is really hard to get a man to just to see you as being sexual. Even men with a disability want a non-disability women. Like Steve if you gave the slution PLEASE let me know.
Wheelchair Warrior
Steve Oldaker <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Billy...Do I suffer sexual frustration? Only daily, many times...
If you find the solution, share it with the group!
Steve
-----Original Message-----
From: B. Kimberlin [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Sent: Monday, December 20, 2004 8:39 PM
To: Quad
Subject: [QUAD-L] FrustrationThis is a serious question, not to insinuate that other questions are not, but I recall one individual who was so preoccupied with sex that I felt compelled to leave the site for a short amount of time just to get away from him. Anyway, does anyone else on here suffer from bouts of extreme sexual frustration? I frequently attribute this frustration to a lack of female companionship, but it is often very difficult to concentrate on other things when I become fixated on this particular subject. Any suggestions?
Billy
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