Hi Kandy,
I don't know if this is the case with your husband, but if someone loses control of many if not all of the things that provided them with enjoyment in the past, food can be one easy, reliable (though temporary) way to treat and enjoy oneself. Unfortunately, the long-term use of this pleasure tool has the undesirable side effect of weight gain. Since you all are consulting a dietitian, he knows the facts but is choosing not to act on them. Have you explained all of your feelings on this and the difficulty it is creating in positioning him? I'm guessing you have, but perhaps a more assertive approach may be in order if he is not responding. Concern expressed with love, not scolding may be best received, but everyone is different. I hope you both can work things out to each of your satisfaction. Steve - seafloor, 21 years From: Kandy Vogelpohl [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Monday, October 26, 2009 8:33 AM To: [email protected] Subject: [QUAD-L] Weight gain - quad belly Hi, My husband has paralyzed vocal cords but has been able to eat in the last 6 months. Since then he has put on about 40 pounds. His belly is getting huge. I am trying to get him to reduce his intake but he gets pissed if I deny him any goodies. His calorie intake a day is about 2500-3500. The dietician told me he should have between 1500-1800. Every day we set this goal and never achieve. He is getting harder to position... Can anyone offer me some advice as to what to tell him or do? He just don't listen. I have such a hard time saying no to him, he been thru so much... Thanks, Kandy - Wife of C4 complete 5/10/08
