Don, today just happens to be mine & sweet Pete's 31st Anniversary of when we met. I was 9 years post and it was love at first sight for Pete ... it took me only 1 more date the following day. We've been inseparable ever since. Pete has been my soul care giver 24/7/365 for over 28 years now. He got certified 26 years ago to become my full-time care giver. Were in a 400 square foot apartment and together CONSTANTLY! We get along extremely well and he takes amazingly the best care I could ask for. For us the "secret" is that we give each other space and time to be alone to do whatever. The thing is every year ( just about ) there is something else that is added on that Pete needs to do for my care. I do not recommend a spouse or significant other be a care giver. It just puts to much stress on the relationship. How do I expect Pete to put on a care giver hat, then put on a "lovers" hat, then my "drivers" hat. Pete dose the laundry, shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning and dishes. He dose EVERYTHING I do nothing. We do take time to go out ... In between bed sores that land me in bed for weeks or months ... like right now as a matter-of-fact. Bobbie
Smile Everyday > On Oct 4, 2013, at 4:53 PM, Don Price <[email protected]> wrote: > > I'm sure this topic has been discussed before, but: > > Those of you who are married or in a serious relationship: do you choose to > have your husband/wife as your primary caregiver or have an outside caregiver? > > I've heard and read that it is best not to have your spouse as your primary > caregiver because it changes the dynamic of the relationship (assuming you > were together before your injury), but I'm not sure if that's true. > > Your thoughts and experiences in this matter will be very helpful. > > Thank you, > Don.
