What Don said is absolutely truth and extremely good advice. I have myself tried doing it both ways(out of curiosity) and found that being positive is makes everything so very much easier on both ends. Bobbie
Smile Everyday > On Oct 5, 2013, at 9:44 PM, donald scott <[email protected]> wrote: > > Hi group, > > I'm not comfortable saying much about my relationship status here because it > doesn't just stay within the community and not end up on the web. I can say I > have much experience in this area. Basically It comes down to no matter who > cares for you be it a wife, parent, love one, or stranger do everything > possible that you can do yourself. For the things you can't do yourself be > patient, understanding, and grateful to those who are helping you. That > doesn't mean you have to just let them do as they please with your care. Be > clear with them what your full needs are. Be organized and make things go as > easy as possible. IF AT ALL POSSIBLE GET OUTSIDE HELP. If you can pay someone > else or get state help to do even small stuff, I think it's a great idea. > Anything you can do to give your primary caregiver a break is recommended. > Especially if it's someone you care about being in your life for a long time. > If your in a dating or marriage situation and want it to last you must do as > I said previously. As well as continually tell them how special and glad you > are that they are willing to share all aspects of your life together. Being > disabled means we have to work twice as hard to be romantic, sexually > creative, and just plain nicer than normal people if we want love to last. > Divert the care they have to do with fun, love, and laughs. Oh, and during > your care periods try to keep things lite and fun when ever possible. When > your together not doing quad and house stuff try really hard to make those > times special. Those times can out way the quad times. > > My 2 cents, > Donald C5-C6 22 years post > >
