that's a good way to explain it.
How do I expect Pete to put on a care giver hat, then put on a "lovers" hat,
then my "drivers" hat.
Pete dose the laundry, shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning and dishes. He dose
EVERYTHING I do nothing.
We do take time to go out ... In between bed sores that land me in bed for
weeks or months ... like right now as a matter-of-fact.
Bobbie
-----Original Message-----
From: diannal767 <[email protected]>
To: bobbiehumphreys7 <[email protected]>
Sent: Sat, Oct 5, 2013 1:33 pm
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Spouse as Caregiver?
that's a good way to explain it.
How do I expect Pete to put on a care giver hat, then put on a "lovers" hat,
then my "drivers" hat.
Pete dose the laundry, shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning and dishes. He dose
EVERYTHING I do nothing.
We do take time to go out ... In between bed sores that land me in bed for
weeks or months ... like right now as a matter-of-fact.
Bobbie
-----Original Message-----
From: Gmail <[email protected]>
To: Don Price <[email protected]>
Cc: quad-list <[email protected]>
Sent: Fri, Oct 4, 2013 9:22 pm
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Spouse as Caregiver?
Don, today just happens to be mine & sweet Pete's 31st Anniversary of when we
met. I was 9 years post and it was love at first sight for Pete ... it took me
only 1 more date the following day. We've been inseparable ever since.
Pete has been my soul care giver 24/7/365 for over 28 years now. He got
certified 26 years ago to become my full-time care giver.
Were in a 400 square foot apartment and together CONSTANTLY!
We get along extremely well and he takes amazingly the best care I could ask
for.
For us the "secret" is that we give each other space and time to be alone to do
whatever.
The thing is every year ( just about ) there is something else that is added on
that Pete needs to do for my care.
I do not recommend a spouse or significant other be a care giver. It just puts
to much stress on the relationship.
How do I expect Pete to put on a care giver hat, then put on a "lovers" hat,
then my "drivers" hat.
Pete dose the laundry, shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning and dishes. He dose
EVERYTHING I do nothing.
We do take time to go out ... In between bed sores that land me in bed for
weeks or months ... like right now as a matter-of-fact.
Bobbie
Smile Everyday
On Oct 4, 2013, at 4:53 PM, Don Price <[email protected]> wrote:
I'm sure this topic has been discussed before, but:
Those of you who are married or in a serious relationship: do you choose to
have your husband/wife as your primary caregiver or have an outside caregiver?
I've heard and read that it is best not to have your spouse as your primary
caregiver because it changes the dynamic of the relationship (assuming you were
together before your injury), but I'm not sure if that's true.
Your thoughts and experiences in this matter will be very helpful.
Thank you,
Don.
