Re: [Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty
hello, i think i know what you feel. i swore that 5 was my limit, no more and just this week i took in a new baby. i wish i could win the lottery, then i could buy a large piece of land, fence it in and rescue all the dogs, cats and horses in our area. actually, all animals. i would rescue children, but they won't let me just pick them up and take them home. if i could find a suitable home for them, i would adopt them out, if not, then they are mine. so far, i have not had to turn one away, that would be awfully hard to do. fortunately, i live in a rural area and there are no restrictions on how many you can have. my only restrictions are what i can afford and physically can care for. dorlis martinj...@verizon.net wrote: when you have to turn away FeLv cats because you rescued one to many, does the feeling of guilt ever go away. I was going to take a cat from NY but had an emergency rescue of one who was going to be put to sleep. I had to tell this person that I can't take the cat. We are getting our last one from Indiana, that has been planned for months. I worry about being reported to the ASPCA for having too many cats. We currently have 13, plus 1 from indiana makes 14. I wish I could rescue them all. In 2-3 years, when we get more financialy stable, we are going to convert a house that we are currently renting, into a cattery so I can rescue more cats. But for now we run it out of our home, which is large, but is getting over run by cats. Any advice or words of comfort is appreciated. ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] feeling guilty
i also hope Jack finds his people. you are right, the best thing we can do is keep on telling people, letting them know pos babies can be saved and live a long life and doing what we cn to help others help them. dorlis Emily Hunter emilyofw...@aol.com wrote: Sorry, sent this to the wrong address at first! I can sympathize - just a few days ago I had to leave a cat at the shelter for the first time ever. He was a stray who showed up at my friend's feral colony and I helped her take him in to be checked. The good news is that he turned out to be microchipped, but they had the wrong phone number for his owner. Neither of us had a place to foster him for the ten days it would take to try to contact the owner by mail. It kills me that we had to leave him, but I had to consider that his owner might not take him back if she found out he was exposed to a felv+/fiv+ cat. He also apparently has mange, and I especially didn't think I could afford to expose Tofu to something contagious. (Please send prayers/positive thoughts that Jack's person can be located!) Everyone has to find their own limit. Mine is 6, partially based on a new city ordinance that requires a liscense for 7 or more. All you can do is realize that if you exceed your own limit, ALL your babies could end up taken away. I cope by keeping an ear out for anyone I meet who may be looking for a cat, by helping educate people about treatable illnesses, and even donating food/medicine to people I know who are having a hard time paying for cats they want to keep. -Emily Sent from my iPhone ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] feeling guilty
Emily, We can put Jack on our website as a courtesy post if you want. On 4/9/09, dlg...@windstream.net dlg...@windstream.net wrote: i also hope Jack finds his people. you are right, the best thing we can do is keep on telling people, letting them know pos babies can be saved and live a long life and doing what we cn to help others help them. dorlis Emily Hunter emilyofw...@aol.com wrote: Sorry, sent this to the wrong address at first! I can sympathize - just a few days ago I had to leave a cat at the shelter for the first time ever. He was a stray who showed up at my friend's feral colony and I helped her take him in to be checked. The good news is that he turned out to be microchipped, but they had the wrong phone number for his owner. Neither of us had a place to foster him for the ten days it would take to try to contact the owner by mail. It kills me that we had to leave him, but I had to consider that his owner might not take him back if she found out he was exposed to a felv+/fiv+ cat. He also apparently has mange, and I especially didn't think I could afford to expose Tofu to something contagious. (Please send prayers/positive thoughts that Jack's person can be located!) Everyone has to find their own limit. Mine is 6, partially based on a new city ordinance that requires a liscense for 7 or more. All you can do is realize that if you exceed your own limit, ALL your babies could end up taken away. I cope by keeping an ear out for anyone I meet who may be looking for a cat, by helping educate people about treatable illnesses, and even donating food/medicine to people I know who are having a hard time paying for cats they want to keep. -Emily Sent from my iPhone ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org -- Rescuties - Saving the world, one cat at a time. http://www.rescuties.org Vist the Rescuties stores and save a kitty life! http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect-home?tag=rescuties-20 http://www.zazzle.com/rescuties* Buy or renew magazines and help our kitties! http://www.magfundraising.com/rescuties Help with medical expenses for two very special kitties! http://rescuties.chipin.com/medical-expenses Rather than helping, it's easier to point fingers and say take them first as long as you leave me alone. ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] feeling guilty
Thanks for the suggestions Chris! Unfortunately, the shelter from which Jack was adopted (earlier this year) is the same shelter where we took him to be checked, so they had the same info as the microchip service. We did get some good news, however. His mange turned out to be a fleabite allergy, so he is not contagious. I am hoping someone is able to take him home soon; he is a cuddler and loves people. -Emily Sent from my iPhone ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty
I completely understand where you are coming from, I currently have 8 cats, and although my house is large as well, with just my husband and I, it is a bit much for me. I love my cats and several are special needs (I only have one FeLV+) right now, but just keeping up with the cleaning and getting them back and forth to the vet (due to work) is a struggle. I've never had 8 before and frankly 5-6 is my limit, but I ended up having to keep 2 of my foster kittens, long story! Anyway, try not to feel guilty, you are doing your part and each of us should only take on as much as we can handle, that way you will do your very best for the kitties that you have. I wish I could handle more, and when my husband and I retire it's something I'm thinking about, but for now I am done. Laura --- On Thu, 3/26/09, martinj...@verizon.net martinj...@verizon.net wrote: From: martinj...@verizon.net martinj...@verizon.net Subject: [Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Thursday, March 26, 2009, 7:23 AM when you have to turn away FeLv cats because you rescued one to many, does the feeling of guilt ever go away. I was going to take a cat from NY but had an emergency rescue of one who was going to be put to sleep. I had to tell this person that I can't take the cat. We are getting our last one from Indiana, that has been planned for months. I worry about being reported to the ASPCA for having too many cats. We currently have 13, plus 1 from indiana makes 14. I wish I could rescue them all. In 2-3 years, when we get more financialy stable, we are going to convert a house that we are currently renting, into a cattery so I can rescue more cats. But for now we run it out of our home, which is large, but is getting over run by cats. Any advice or words of comfort is appreciated. ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] feeling guilty
Having worked to find owners post Katrina and now working with a shelter in LA, I know that chips are sometimes the very last thing people remember to update when they move or change phone #s. Don't know what chip company you talked to but, be sure to ask them: 1) When/where the chip was implanted--that can give you the orig vet or shelter as well as give u a hint as to age 2) ALL the alternate contacts listed 3) The name and address of the owner as well as the phone # If that doesn't help, feel free to e-mail me--I've had some pretty good success tracking people whose chip info was outdated. Christiane Biagi Cell: 914-720-6888 ti...@mindspring.com Volunteer-St. Bernard Parish Animal Shelter http://www.flickr.com/photos/sbpshelter/sets/72157603921945483/ -Original Message- From: felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org [mailto:felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org] On Behalf Of Emily Hunter Sent: Friday, March 27, 2009 5:33 PM To: Felv Talk List Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] feeling guilty Sorry, sent this to the wrong address at first! I can sympathize - just a few days ago I had to leave a cat at the shelter for the first time ever. He was a stray who showed up at my friend's feral colony and I helped her take him in to be checked. The good news is that he turned out to be microchipped, but they had the wrong phone number for his owner. Neither of us had a place to foster him for the ten days it would take to try to contact the owner by mail. It kills me that we had to leave him, but I had to consider that his owner might not take him back if she found out he was exposed to a felv+/fiv+ cat. He also apparently has mange, and I especially didn't think I could afford to expose Tofu to something contagious. (Please send prayers/positive thoughts that Jack's person can be located!) Everyone has to find their own limit. Mine is 6, partially based on a new city ordinance that requires a liscense for 7 or more. All you can do is realize that if you exceed your own limit, ALL your babies could end up taken away. I cope by keeping an ear out for anyone I meet who may be looking for a cat, by helping educate people about treatable illnesses, and even donating food/medicine to people I know who are having a hard time paying for cats they want to keep. -Emily Sent from my iPhone ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] feeling guilty
Sorry, sent this to the wrong address at first! I can sympathize - just a few days ago I had to leave a cat at the shelter for the first time ever. He was a stray who showed up at my friend's feral colony and I helped her take him in to be checked. The good news is that he turned out to be microchipped, but they had the wrong phone number for his owner. Neither of us had a place to foster him for the ten days it would take to try to contact the owner by mail. It kills me that we had to leave him, but I had to consider that his owner might not take him back if she found out he was exposed to a felv+/fiv+ cat. He also apparently has mange, and I especially didn't think I could afford to expose Tofu to something contagious. (Please send prayers/positive thoughts that Jack's person can be located!) Everyone has to find their own limit. Mine is 6, partially based on a new city ordinance that requires a liscense for 7 or more. All you can do is realize that if you exceed your own limit, ALL your babies could end up taken away. I cope by keeping an ear out for anyone I meet who may be looking for a cat, by helping educate people about treatable illnesses, and even donating food/medicine to people I know who are having a hard time paying for cats they want to keep. -Emily Sent from my iPhone ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
[Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty
when you have to turn away FeLv cats because you rescued one to many, does the feeling of guilt ever go away. I was going to take a cat from NY but had an emergency rescue of one who was going to be put to sleep. I had to tell this person that I can't take the cat. We are getting our last one from Indiana, that has been planned for months. I worry about being reported to the ASPCA for having too many cats. We currently have 13, plus 1 from indiana makes 14. I wish I could rescue them all. In 2-3 years, when we get more financialy stable, we are going to convert a house that we are currently renting, into a cattery so I can rescue more cats. But for now we run it out of our home, which is large, but is getting over run by cats. Any advice or words of comfort is appreciated. ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty
We do what we CAN...and it hurts to realize we cannot save every one. I don't think the guilt ever goes away, but it does help to remember the story of the boy and the starfish.every one we save matters. Be gentle with yourself...I know exactly how you are feelingand so do many others. Debbie (COL) The time is always right to do what is right - Martin Luther King Date: Thu, 26 Mar 2009 06:23:57 -0500 From: martinj...@verizon.net To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: [Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty when you have to turn away FeLv cats because you rescued one to many, does the feeling of guilt ever go away. I was going to take a cat from NY but had an emergency rescue of one who was going to be put to sleep. I had to tell this person that I can't take the cat. We are getting our last one from Indiana, that has been planned for months. I worry about being reported to the ASPCA for having too many cats. We currently have 13, plus 1 from indiana makes 14. I wish I could rescue them all. In 2-3 years, when we get more financialy stable, we are going to convert a house that we are currently renting, into a cattery so I can rescue more cats. But for now we run it out of our home, which is large, but is getting over run by cats. Any advice or words of comfort is appreciated. ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org _ Drag n’ drop—Get easy photo sharing with Windows Live™ Photos. http://www.microsoft.com/windows/windowslive/products/photos.aspx ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] Feeling Guilty
I can so sympathise with what you are saying. A couple of weeks ago my vet called me and asked if I could take a positive cat with anemia that he believed there was hope for. I had to tell him no and I am still thinking about that poor cat. The owners were being jerks, refused to have their other cats tested, even though they go outside, and wanted to put this one down immediatly. I don't help anywhere near as many cats as you do but as you say, I wish I could rescue them all. My husband has reached his limit with seven cats and if I took another I know there would be some issues in our marrage. I guess you just have to remember what a difference you have made in the lives of the ones you have rescued. Sue martinj...@verizon.net wrote: when you have to turn away FeLv cats because you rescued one to many, does the feeling of guilt ever go away. I was going to take a cat from NY but had an emergency rescue of one who was going to be put to sleep. I had to tell this person that I can't take the cat. We are getting our last one from Indiana, that has been planned for months. I worry about being reported to the ASPCA for having too many cats. We currently have 13, plus 1 from indiana makes 14. I wish I could rescue them all. In 2-3 years, when we get more financialy stable, we are going to convert a house that we are currently renting, into a cattery so I can rescue more cats. But for now we run it out of our home, which is large, but is getting over run by cats. Any advice or words of comfort is appreciated. ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
