Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? If you're making music, share it with the world and the world might get back to you one day! At least for me sutch was the case. About eight years ago I got pretty fed up by my friend asking me to make myself a soundcloud account and put my shit up

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? When I was much younger I had a really hard time making friends. My school were really reluctant to accept me in the first place. They only let me in because my mom threatened to sue their asses. When I finally got there, they made me sit in a class, away from

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I've said for a while now that it doesn't matter if your friends are online or not. For me, I want a connection with someone else's personality, so it doesn't matter whether I talk to him/her over the Internet or in person. I don't need a bunch of friends

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? @8 In regards to discord, I use it pretty regularly, it definitely is and was in fact for gamers first and foremost but a lot of people use it now, I know a lot of YouTubers that use it and it's a great way to interact with them and others, I personally follow

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I've said for a while now that it doesn't matter if your friends are online or not. For me, I want a connection with someone else's personality, so it doesn't matter whether I talk to him/her over the Internet or in person. I don't need a bunch of friends

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I am happy to say that at the ripe old age of 19 I have reached the place of cynicism that most older people reach. And I'll say this, I'm really sick of this support group rhetoric that attempts to hide all the truths about how having a disability effects

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I am happy to say that at the ripe old age of 19 I have reached the place of cynicism that most older people reach. And I'll say this, I'm really sick of this support group rhetoric that attempts to hide all the truths about how having a disability effects

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? Man, that advice is so backwards at this day and age. In fact, good grades barely get you anywhere. Knowing how to form social connections and networking is where one gets you the $$. And the first introduction to socializing obviously comes from friends. People

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I have no more advice than I've already mentioned ion this topicI will say though, that I am feeling a little smug, since in the land of the corona virus, the one friended man is king! Social isolation? Not being able to go out? Afraid of crowds? Needing

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I have no [euphamism] idea.@turtlepower: my parents had the exact same attitude. Friends are a path to the dark side; good grades are The path to success. In their defense, I've been looking up 80s commercial compilations lately, and their are all kinds of PSAs

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I'm genuinely sorry that your parents gave you such backwards advice. I can't say I'm surprised, unfortunately, since mine told me that having friends meant nothing, only getting good grades mattered, but damn. Forgive me for saying so, but that response shows

Re: socializing - any tips?

Re: socializing - any tips? I feel the same. i'm gonna take a good look at this topic. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/513844/#p513844 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing @turtlepower17, I feel the frustration, the anger, the pain and the sadness in each and every single one of your words.  Once again I find myself asking what it was I was thinking when I decided I should have children just because I could.  In the struggle against

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I bought myself a phone in my senior year. I also had the run of the net because it was, well, not new exactly, but less people knew anything about it. I made it my playground, and my parents didn't know anything about it really. I got online at the age of 12 on a dial-up

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Yeah, I remember when chat rooms came into existence. I never got into the AOL ones, but I did try my hand at Accessible Chat back when that was still a thing. My dad walked in on me interacting with that one night, and you'd think he caught me viewing child porn

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Yeah, I remember when chat rooms came into existence. I never got into the AOL ones, but I did try my hand at Accessible Chat back when that was still a thing. My dad walked in on me interacting with that one night, and you'd think he caught me viewing child porn

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing The same thing happened, and still happens, to me. I really have the same question as you, 1. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432951/#p432951 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I believe it was around 2004 or there abouts that I felt a shift when it came to talking to people.  All of a sudden everyone was getting a cellphone, even teens my age I was certain shouldn't have one.  I actually didn't get my own mobile device until I was about 19, but I

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Oh yeah I'm never getting hired based off the shit I posted on Twitter but I knew it was gonna be that way.Well I'm good with helping people with their shit, whether it is giving advice, or letting them vent at me or just talk and I'll listen. I'm fine with that, but I'm

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I used to like the attention of the number of likes, and that was just recently. Like, within the last month recently. It wasn't until I sat down and reflected on what it is I have done leading up to this point (attending school, getting an internship, thinking of where I'm

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I'm the same way too. I usually don't initiate contact because I don't want to come on too strong or seem needy. Nowadays, with all this talk of boundaries being all the rage, it seems to me that you have to be extremely careful how you come across to others because

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I am like that, if you want to talk to me, you have to initiate it, I don't call/text anyone first, or in social situations, don't talk to people unless they talk to me first. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432899/#p432899 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I can't say that I truly struggle with socializing with others when the time comes. Honestly, I get along with most people. It's the depth of those interactions that troubles me. Sure, I have my moments where I don't know what to say next, either because the person isn't

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Nah, me neither. Social conditioning is a bitch, isn't it?I'm reminded of a time when I called a company to cancel an account with them. The customer service rep I spoke to asked me how I was doing. Without thinking at all, I said, "good, how about yourself?" as

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I don't know if I'd be ball-zy enough to respond with that, lol. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432880/#p432880 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing When people ask me that, I usually respond with something like, "Are you sure you want to know that?" URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432854/#p432854 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing The last two posts make a lot of sense to me. I agree that the majority of people don't actually want to know how you're doing, it's just a pleasantry, an icebreaker, if you will. It's only asked out of politeness, and I think most people just ask it on autopilot, similar

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing There's this unspoken convention to socializing with others, especially with those you've just met."Hello." "Hi." "How are you?" "I'm doing quite well, and yourself?" "Not too bad, just exhausted from classes." "I h

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing @turtlepower17, you may never believe me, but I'm on your side.  While I may come across as someone who easily engages people or has learned the ropes concerning socializing... I don't know... I do know that I'm not.  I find most people feel fake and flaky to me.  The worst

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Hello.I agree with everything people have said above.I guess I've wanted to make friends but the things people talk about are boring and I have no idea where to begin.Small talk is boring, and I'm not one for clubs and things like that.I've not exactly given up on making

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Sorry I was bubbling on and my phone will not let me continue in the post above.My points was what I have come to realise is people shouldn't be afraid to socialise online as you will end up spending more time talking to people in general online then you will be in real

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I can totally relate with what everybody is saying above in this topic, most people in the world go through the same thing visually impaired disabled or regular folk.Since I lost my site it has been the opposite as everybody wants to talk to the mixed-race blind giants.when

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing There are times when I really want to be in a serious relationship, but I see the problems that they cause in other people's lives, and I'm like hell no. It scares me to death, because I'd put all I have into it, and if the other person is not as committed, or ends up

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing What I find interesting in my own life is that it's usually easier for people to want to reach out to me. That's true predominantly in the blind community. I've been around different platforms, including Vorail, and, for some reason, was deemed to have a, shall we say

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I completely agree with the original post. I've found that I simply don't care about most people. They're either assholes, have nothing interesting to say, or don't like anything I do. I'm not interested in going to bars, night clubs, bowling, watching sports, specific

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Thanks, guys. to be honest, I don't see it as being that much of a blindness issue either. The only reason I brought up my experiences with bullying was because I think it changed how I form relationships, and makes me more suspicious of others, but that could just

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I gave up trying to be sociable years ago. It always felt like I was a dog trying to walk on its hind legs. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432494/#p432494 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Hmm. Well speaking only from my own experience, I have always been a musical geek, sometimes to nearly the utter extreme. Doing things normal kids did was never in my plans when I was a kid. While I think a lot of the people around me tried to give me space and freedom

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing If I'm being honest, I feel like a lot of people feel this way to some extent. You can't be compatible with absolutely everybody, and maybe the way you interact with others just isn't sitting well with those around you. Socializing and building a reputation for yourself

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing For me there are three states. There is state 1 which I experience most of the time, which is where people see "weird blind person" and either completely ignore me, or, on the occasion they're forced to interact with me they do so in a manner  which maintai

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing GIGO = Garbage in, Garbage out. Although, I am not implying that people are Garbage. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432444/#p432444 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Uh? I understood none of that.. h? URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432440/#p432440 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing What I'm banking on, yeah. It does have a weakness, in that you're more likely to find likable people if you have more people in the first place. IME, that's kinda weak, because GIGO. Filters, filters, filters. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432436/#p432436

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing You know, if you look at this as a blessing rather than a curse, imagine that bullshit types of people others have to get past to find the one good person in their life, or the few good people. Now, if we get blown off or scoffed at by the majority, but we get accepted

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Yeah, pretty much all of the above. Most people are not interesting in the slightest. Most conversations even less so. You have to be the Social Monarch Butterfly of Doom, these days. And that's terrible. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432425/#p432425

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I really stopped trying in college. People never invited me to do things, so I stopped making much of an effort. Now, unless someone shows me they are genuinely interested in getting to know me, I have no reason to get beyond that professional boundary.It doesn't help

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I really stopped trying in college. People never invited me to do things, so I stopped making much of an effort. Now, unless someone shows me they are genuinely interested in getting to know me, I have no reason to get beyond that professional boundary.It doesn't help

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I can talk to people at school, but if we don’t hang outside school I don’t contact them much. So online friendships are much easier to manage, but I prefer in person friendships URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432405/#p432405 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I also trynot to do Smalltalk. I mean, smalltalk can be done with bots, and it's not a true human interaction IMO. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432386/#p432386 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I get this way as well, to some extent. I don't care about many of the same things others seem to. I can make small talk and I apparently ice-break really well, but I quickly want to get past that and find out what you're all about, if I care at all. Some people find

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing I don't really do small talk so I don't know. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432355/#p432355 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector

Re: Socializing

Re: Socializing Unfortunately, I can't offer any tips, as I'm largely in the same place. My school days weren't nearly as hard as what you wrote, but what you describe is pretty much what I go through with most people too. So you're not alone. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/432349