Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

Oh, yes, I remember that rule. If I was asked by someone I really didn’t want to dance with, and I declined to dance with them, I would sit out the next dance in order not to hurt their feelings and I had to act as if I was tired or I wanted to sit it out, all the time wishing that I'd avoided

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

On 12/16/2017 2:10 PM, Alan Winston via Callers wrote: BACDS Code of Conduct says: http://bacds.org/conduct/CodeOfConduct.pdf "Ask a partner kindly.  Accept their answer cheerfully.  If you are repeatedly declined by a prospective partner, it is best to give them space. Feel free to decline

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

I think that person was really saying "no, sorry; I'm a total self-centered a-hole!" When doing a beginner session, I cover the basic asking to dance bit and then say something to the effect of "You're free to decline for any reason - just say "no thank you" and move on. You don't owe any

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

BACDS Code of Conduct says: http://bacds.org/conduct/CodeOfConduct.pdf - "Ask a partner kindly.  Accept their answer cheerfully.  If you are repeatedly declined by a prospective partner, it is best to give them space. Feel free to decline a dance with someone with whom you

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

I employ and teach the method that Angela suggests... but not always. I am old school enough that I may sit a dance after a refusal of an offer...but then I rarely refuse an offer to dance unless I really do need a rest or I have some other obligation. I think George Marshall's presentation in

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

I think the story you tell is a great reason why the older etiquette of having to sit out is silly and outdated -- I'd rather someone who doesn't want to dance with me just say "no thank you!" And continue about their business. As a caller, I teach that "yes, thank you!" and "no, thank you!" are

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

On 12/16/2017 12:01 PM, Alexandra Deis-Lauby wrote: This is Cdny’s etiquette page. It addresses saying no but not in great detail in terms of historical practice. http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/ And I hadn't realized until this conversation with my dance friend just how

Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

This is Cdny’s etiquette page. It addresses saying no but not in great detail in terms of historical practice. http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/ Sent from my iPhone > On Dec 16, 2017, at 2:39 PM, Kalia Kliban via Callers > wrote: > > Hi all, >

[Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

Hi all, Those of us who started dancing 2 or 3 decades back probably remember the rule about sitting out the dance if you turn down a partner offer. A very competent male dancer I know who started around the same time I did (late 80s) recently confessed to me that he never asks anyone to