Yes, when I saw that request for advice about dating a bi-polar my first instict was to post back, "RUN!", having had an experience similar to yours. But then I thought it might be instructive to see what others had to say first. Personally, I'd still stick with "RUN!", but no-one ever heeds *that* advice, IME.
Cheers, indi On Fri, Jan 30, 2009 at 09:23:20AM -0500, Ode Coyote wrote: > > > After having listened to a bipolar justify his problems for years and > years...it became clear that he had diametrically conflicting desires and > denied having half of them....the half that he couldn't justify, but > obviously still pursued fulfillment of. > He was a GENIUS that wanted to be a bum, but his ego wouldn't allow it. > I kept telling him that so long as he wasn't burden, being a bum needs > no justification..and not being a burden takes very little effort if you > are willing to live what you want, the way it is. > > He COULD "move the world" couldn't get over the idea that he SHOULD, but > didn't want to...so, every time he went down that path and got somewhere, > he'd trip himself up and feel guilty about it, then blame someone or > something else for falling. > Feeling guilty is depressing and blame does nothing. > He became addicted to the depression chemicals he justified into being > and sought the alcohol analog to keep himself there, believing he *should > be* stable...one way or the other...falling victim to his own absolutism. > > He went to the-rapist a lot, but chose the back end of the mind f*ck...pills. > > > Mental imbalance causes chemical imbalance. > Just owning your own "see saw" without judgement... helps a bunch. > > No one is not conflicted. > A Bipolar believes he shouldn't be, splits himself in two and goes for > both absolutes in turns. > In that guys case, his heart eventually exploded. > > Anti whatever drugs can serve as a "book mark this page" grounding point > to remind you what *good* feels like. > Beyond that, they just enable denial and delay. > > Lookie. Humans are CRAZY. > It's OK to be one and be uncertain who you are and what you want. > That's called "normal" > My friend thought he had to be sane, that someone else got to define > what that was..... and he didn't like that definition. > > I was headed that way, but chose unreasonable happiness as a means to > see the humor in conflict. > By brain chemistry followed right along as I did completely pointless > things to prove to me that I didn't need to make sense to myself. > Specifically..Having not eaten or slept in 3 days and having no desire to > stay alive, couldn't find any reasons anywhere....CRAWLED to the mail box > to check the mail on Sunday, 4 times. > It's a pretty long muddy driveway and such a ridiculous thing to do, > that I just HAD to laugh. [Still laughing 12 years later ] > > "Book mark that page" > What ...me SERIOUS? > > ....go bang your head on a wall till you can't stop laughing at how dumb > you are. > Better yet, go bash your brains out on a big fluffy pillow and don't > stop till you do. > > Let me guess: > This Bipolar person is VERY intelligent. > > Well > > I AM smart enough to be EXACTLY that stupid. > ..NOT qualified to know what I want...half manic will do. > Wing it and see what happens. > > Since ANYTHING can be justified, complete opposites CAN be, equally > reasonable. > It doesn't matter which you choose to enhance with illogic, both > directions operate the same way. > ..and you don't have to BE there, to travel. > > Ya never know where you're going, anyhow. > All ya ever got is the way you walk.. > What you can't freekin know, doesn't freekin matter. > > "This" sucks...means... I believe I know where I am. > Isn't what you REALLY want, what you DON'T know? > Then not knowing where you're going, is the way there. > .....so stick one foot in your pocket and get going. > The dumber it "looks", the better it'll work to walk away from your > previous smart. > "THIS" > > Ode > > > > At 08:45 PM 1/29/2009 +0100, you wrote: > >> the only thing I can think of is therapy in order for her to learn how >> to live with her disorder more easily and I think a good idea would be >> for your friend to inform himself what to expect from this disorder and >> also how to live with it maybe with a therapist as well. >> >> I would strongly recommend Gestalt therapy, I think it is a very >> realistic and earth bound therapy... >> >> Erik >> >> 2009/1/29 Marshall Dudley >> <<mailto:[email protected]>[email protected]> >>> Someone I know has started dating a girl with bipolar disorder. Does >>> anyone know of anything natural or holistic that might help or cure? >>> >>> Thanks, >>> >>> Marshall >>> >>> >>> -- >>> The Silver List is a moderated forum for discussing Colloidal Silver. >>> >>> Instructions for unsubscribing are posted at: >>> <http://silverlist.org>http://silverlist.org >>> >>> To post, address your message to: >>> <mailto:[email protected]>[email protected] >>> >>> Address Off-Topic messages to: >>> <mailto:[email protected]>[email protected] >>> >>> The Silver List and Off Topic List archives are currently down... >>> >>> List maintainer: Mike Devour <<mailto:[email protected]>[email protected]> >>> >> >> >> >> -- >> >> >> Erik >> >> >> No virus found in this incoming message. >> Checked by AVG. >> Version: 7.5.552 / Virus Database: 270.10.15/1923 - Release Date: 1/29/2009 > > > > -- > No virus found in this outgoing message. > Checked by AVG. 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