Dear all,
Can anyone define what is to be 'Humble'?
Since sometimes back one of my old senior colleague advised me that
"whether you are right or wrong is not important, be humble, and
humble since you have special children you need to be much more
humbled." He used to be like my well-wisher.
As you all know I used to argue with all without fear in Brahmin
forums, zen forum, you can imagine my attitude is same elsewhere. Yes I used to
argue with people in two Marine forums without fear. This had created
a lot of problems for me. Some very senior people in the forum holding
very high position in company called my company owner and told about
my way of argument, and hence owner called me in front of all my
senior colleagues and warned me to strict only to my work.
After few months I left the company and when I gave my resignation, my
immediate boss asked me why am I leaving the company?, I told 'since
you people have threatened me I am leaving'. He said 'we all love you
and hence we wanted you not to get into any troubles in future and
hence warned you'. But he was not ready for increment which other
company was giving me, so I left, but soon after that company also
closed down their shipping division.
So this my senior old colleague called my present colleague and asked
about my behavior and it seems he did not give good report, so he
called me and advised me like this.
I am wondering what do people expect in terms of Humble, is it
slavery? People don't like to be questioned, either they don’t know
the answer or they are afraid that person questioning will become
superior over them.
My colleague is afraid of my arguments, he always says no arguments. I
am not supposed to argue with Boss, why? Am I slave? If Boss is wrong,
how to prove he is wrong? (If I don't prove wrong both me and my boss
will be loser)
Before joining this company itself I have argued with the current Boss
to retain my old mobile number, else he was forcing a new sim card in
the name of company policy, which I did not like. I told him a policy
has to be keep changing as and when situation changes, you cannot keep
one policy throughout your life of the company, such company will fall
down soon.
So he changed the HR policy and I retained my old mobile number. I
also told him I know many government and senior officers in big
company, and all those people know me by this number, so when I call
them, they may pick up and answer me, else any new number such people
will not attend only. So I need to introduce all, and some very
seniors may not be interested to update my number. So I am the loser
and if I am loser then the company is loser, because I may contact
them only for company purpose and not for personnel.
So people are afraid to argue with seniors or Boss and thereby remain
as slave and thereby lose all merits one may get.
I like our forum members to advise me honestly how should I change and
how to be humble but at the same time not be a slave.
Best wishes
Suresh
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Thanks and best regards
J.Suresh
New No.3, Old No.7,
Chamiers road - 1st Lane,
Alwarpet,
Chennai - 600018
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