Sometimes life is just difficult, sometimes harsh.
On Thu, Jul 25, 2013 at 8:06 AM, SURESH JAGADEESAN <[email protected]>wrote: > Dear all, > > Can anyone define what is to be 'Humble'? > > Since sometimes back one of my old senior colleague advised me that > "whether you are right or wrong is not important, be humble, and > humble since you have special children you need to be much more > humbled." He used to be like my well-wisher. > > As you all know I used to argue with all without fear in Brahmin > forums, zen forum, you can imagine my attitude is same elsewhere. Yes I > used to > argue with people in two Marine forums without fear. This had created > a lot of problems for me. Some very senior people in the forum holding > very high position in company called my company owner and told about > my way of argument, and hence owner called me in front of all my > senior colleagues and warned me to strict only to my work. > > After few months I left the company and when I gave my resignation, my > immediate boss asked me why am I leaving the company?, I told 'since > you people have threatened me I am leaving'. He said 'we all love you > and hence we wanted you not to get into any troubles in future and > hence warned you'. But he was not ready for increment which other > company was giving me, so I left, but soon after that company also > closed down their shipping division. > > So this my senior old colleague called my present colleague and asked > about my behavior and it seems he did not give good report, so he > called me and advised me like this. > > I am wondering what do people expect in terms of Humble, is it > slavery? People don't like to be questioned, either they don’t know > the answer or they are afraid that person questioning will become > superior over them. > > My colleague is afraid of my arguments, he always says no arguments. I > am not supposed to argue with Boss, why? Am I slave? If Boss is wrong, > how to prove he is wrong? (If I don't prove wrong both me and my boss > will be loser) > > Before joining this company itself I have argued with the current Boss > to retain my old mobile number, else he was forcing a new sim card in > the name of company policy, which I did not like. I told him a policy > has to be keep changing as and when situation changes, you cannot keep > one policy throughout your life of the company, such company will fall > down soon. > > So he changed the HR policy and I retained my old mobile number. I > also told him I know many government and senior officers in big > company, and all those people know me by this number, so when I call > them, they may pick up and answer me, else any new number such people > will not attend only. So I need to introduce all, and some very > seniors may not be interested to update my number. So I am the loser > and if I am loser then the company is loser, because I may contact > them only for company purpose and not for personnel. > > So people are afraid to argue with seniors or Boss and thereby remain > as slave and thereby lose all merits one may get. > > I like our forum members to advise me honestly how should I change and > how to be humble but at the same time not be a slave. > > > Best wishes > Suresh > > > > > -- > Thanks and best regards > J.Suresh > New No.3, Old No.7, > Chamiers road - 1st Lane, > Alwarpet, > Chennai - 600018 > Ph: 044 42030947 > Mobile: 91 9884071738 > > > ------------------------------------ > > Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are > reading! Talk about it today!Yahoo! Groups Links > > > > -- *Larry Maher*
