On Mon, Feb 01, 2010 at 08:54:03AM -0500, Tom C scripsit: [snip] > When one specifically states that something is a suggestion, I don't > know how it can be interpreted otherwise unless it is almost > deliberately misinterpreted. Words are chosen, usually with the intent > of accurately expressing the thoughts of the speaker.
Turning down "I suggest" requires a direct refusal. There are (in my rather tactful opinion entirely too gods-be-feathered many) people who consider the point of politeness to be arranging matters so they never have to say "no" directly. (The ones who consider this point to include never having to say "yes" directly are a different class of problem.) Much depends on audience; the VP Sales at a primary software vendor at one project I worked on was horrified by the level of argument I and their technical team would get into. We were having a great time, and the project was better for the candour. -- Graydon -- PDML Pentax-Discuss Mail List PDML@pdml.net http://pdml.net/mailman/listinfo/pdml_pdml.net to UNSUBSCRIBE from the PDML, please visit the link directly above and follow the directions.
