I agree with Ajay, I have been through similar situations in school/college. I remember my first day in college when I could not find anyone of my school mates, so just went and sat besides an unknown student who was constantly talking with his school buddy on the other side. Some teachers asked us to introduce ourselves with name and marks for the specific subject where I was one of the top scorers. By the end of the day, my bench partner asked me how I would go home, how I study, etc and the next day, he asked me if I need something from the canteen. I joined him to the canteen and thereafter we became friends. I've experienced that people are more comfortable with independent movers maybe, they feel like being free from worrying about the challenged friend. Everyone on the list must have had unique experiences and may think in their own way.
On 11/28/11, Alla rakhi <[email protected]> wrote: > What has been said by ajay is absolutely true. You'll never be counted > as a friend on equal terms by your sighted counterparts unless you're > independant in mobility. but on the other hand, mind you that, if you > can handle yourself independantly without being dependant all the time > on others then you'll find that hardly do your sighted friends > distinguish you from others. Be mobile and good in socialising and > daily living skills, then you'll find most of things in the society > become normal to you even if you are a totally blind. Mustering good > mobility skills is no rocketry science but it definitely require a > strong will power an a desire for it. > > On 11/28/11, Ajay Minocha <[email protected]> wrote: >> Hi rahul >> sorry for a long mail >> >> it may sound harsh to you >> but the main problam is the sighted guide >> please don't mind but after passing your 12th you should devote some >> time specially to have a nice mobility training >> and when you sit in your group >> then you should take active partisipation in their conversations >> they will automatically ask you for hang outs >> I had also faced the same situation when I was at school >> because school students have a fear in their mind about handeling a >> blind or low vision person >> I had a positive thing with me >> that I used to be an outstanding student in my school as well as college >> so many people got excited to talk to me >> and after that they became my good friends >> when I passed my school I had a large number of friends and other >> suggesting me to study with distence education plan >> because they thought that going alone to college was not my cup of tea >> my parents also thought that way >> but when I went to college they are quite satisfied with me >> I also remember the 1st day of my college >> One of my sighted friend who was my class mate earlier >> had dropped me to my class >> an unknown person helped me to aquire a seet in class >> when the lecturor came she asked us to present our selves by giving a >> brief introduction >> I was the 1st to go >> when I finished my introduction the lecturor asked me some special >> questions about my life >> which I answered quite patiently >> then I had allmost 10 to 15 people gathered around me >> after the class they were qurious about their low vision friend >> soon I got familiar with them >> now they tell me that when we saw the very 1st day they we got very >> imotional >> specially the girls >> they call me to see movie or just to have a nice hang out >> they didn't had any idea to handle me >> in earlier they used to pull me behind them >> then I told them the right way to handle me >> when I go in class then if I recorganise somebody I say hi to him or her >> if not then they will come to my seet to meet me >> if you want some tips then get in touch >> I will be happy to help you >> regards >> >> On 11/28/11, shyam sharma <[email protected]> wrote: >>> Hi Rahul, don't worry. Don't take it as a biggest problem of your >>> life. As far as I think there is only one solution to it. If someone >>> is not asking you then you should go and approach to him/her. Keep >>> proving yourself to them that though you've not eyes but you can see >>> everthing. keep friendship with them more strong than they do. Try to >>> win their heart over. Never mind what their behaviour is to you just >>> be positive and try everything without loosing your heart. >>> One more important thing which I want to mention here that I would >>> like to make friendship with you. 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