here I would also like to add one more thing till my 10th standard mymom used to drop and pick me up from my school I didn't have many friends then but when in 11th My mom became ill then I started to come alone and in just 1 year I was socialised with most of the class we should be keen to help others in what ever way we can then nobody can remain alone without a group earlier my friends used to have a fear in their mind about handling me but now the hold my hand but I take care of my self in markets molls or cinemas
regards On 11/28/11, Zujar Shabbir Kanchwala <[email protected]> wrote: > I agree with Ajay, I have been through similar situations in > school/college. I remember my first day in college when I could not > find anyone of my school mates, so just went and sat besides an > unknown student who was constantly talking with his school buddy on > the other side. Some teachers asked us to introduce ourselves with > name and marks for the specific subject where I was one of the top > scorers. By the end of the day, my bench partner asked me how I would > go home, how I study, etc and the next day, he asked me if I need > something from the canteen. I joined him to the canteen and thereafter > we became friends. I've experienced that people are more comfortable > with independent movers maybe, they feel like being free from worrying > about the challenged friend. Everyone on the list must have had unique > experiences and may think in their own way. > > On 11/28/11, Alla rakhi <[email protected]> wrote: >> What has been said by ajay is absolutely true. You'll never be counted >> as a friend on equal terms by your sighted counterparts unless you're >> independant in mobility. but on the other hand, mind you that, if you >> can handle yourself independantly without being dependant all the time >> on others then you'll find that hardly do your sighted friends >> distinguish you from others. Be mobile and good in socialising and >> daily living skills, then you'll find most of things in the society >> become normal to you even if you are a totally blind. Mustering good >> mobility skills is no rocketry science but it definitely require a >> strong will power an a desire for it. >> >> On 11/28/11, Ajay Minocha <[email protected]> wrote: >>> Hi rahul >>> sorry for a long mail >>> >>> it may sound harsh to you >>> but the main problam is the sighted guide >>> please don't mind but after passing your 12th you should devote some >>> time specially to have a nice mobility training >>> and when you sit in your group >>> then you should take active partisipation in their conversations >>> they will automatically ask you for hang outs >>> I had also faced the same situation when I was at school >>> because school students have a fear in their mind about handeling a >>> blind or low vision person >>> I had a positive thing with me >>> that I used to be an outstanding student in my school as well as college >>> so many people got excited to talk to me >>> and after that they became my good friends >>> when I passed my school I had a large number of friends and other >>> suggesting me to study with distence education plan >>> because they thought that going alone to college was not my cup of tea >>> my parents also thought that way >>> but when I went to college they are quite satisfied with me >>> I also remember the 1st day of my college >>> One of my sighted friend who was my class mate earlier >>> had dropped me to my class >>> an unknown person helped me to aquire a seet in class >>> when the lecturor came she asked us to present our selves by giving a >>> brief introduction >>> I was the 1st to go >>> when I finished my introduction the lecturor asked me some special >>> questions about my life >>> which I answered quite patiently >>> then I had allmost 10 to 15 people gathered around me >>> after the class they were qurious about their low vision friend >>> soon I got familiar with them >>> now they tell me that when we saw the very 1st day they we got very >>> imotional >>> specially the girls >>> they call me to see movie or just to have a nice hang out >>> they didn't had any idea to handle me >>> in earlier they used to pull me behind them >>> then I told them the right way to handle me >>> when I go in class then if I recorganise somebody I say hi to him or her >>> if not then they will come to my seet to meet me >>> if you want some tips then get in touch >>> I will be happy to help you >>> regards >>> >>> On 11/28/11, shyam sharma <[email protected]> wrote: >>>> Hi Rahul, don't worry. Don't take it as a biggest problem of your >>>> life. As far as I think there is only one solution to it. If someone >>>> is not asking you then you should go and approach to him/her. Keep >>>> proving yourself to them that though you've not eyes but you can see >>>> everthing. keep friendship with them more strong than they do. Try to >>>> win their heart over. Never mind what their behaviour is to you just >>>> be positive and try everything without loosing your heart. >>>> One more important thing which I want to mention here that I would >>>> like to make friendship with you. Would you? >>>> >>>> [email protected] >>>> >>>> with warm regards: >>>> >>>> >>>> Search for old postings at: >>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>> >>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>> [email protected] >>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>> >>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>> please >>>> visit the list home page at >>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>> >>> >>> -- >>> Ajay Minocha >>> Mob : +91-7827188455 >>> E mail : [email protected] >>> [email protected] >>> >>> >>> Search for old postings at: >>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>> >>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>> [email protected] >>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>> >>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>> please >>> visit the list home page at >>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>> >>> >> >> >> Search for old postings at: >> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >> >> To unsubscribe send a message to >> [email protected] >> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >> please >> visit the list home page at >> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> > > > -- > Best Regards, > Zujar... > > An optimist laughs to forget, whereas a pessimist forgets to laugh! > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > -- Ajay Minocha Mob : +91-7827188455 E mail : [email protected] [email protected] Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. 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