wow - that's an interesting point. One may not necessarily be good at academics in order to make friends in school/college. What matters is one's attitude, behavior, lingual skills, body language, and an overall feeling of being equal to, not lesser or greater than, friends - sighted or challenged.
On 11/28/11, Shadab Husain <[email protected]> wrote: > Everyone, unlike me, seems to be excellent at studies! First time I > failed in the half yearly exams of class 6th. I became really naughty. > Save a few teachers, everyone had thrashed me at La Martiniere Boys. I > was promoted with warning in 7th where again I failed in the half > yearly exams. My chair used to be apart from the entire class. But my > fun was appreciated and thankfully I was never short of friends. You > need to enjoy yourself and make the people laugh around to make > friends! > > PersonalityAndEnglish.blogspot.com > > On 11/28/11, Ajay Minocha <[email protected]> wrote: >> here I would also like to add one more thing >> till my 10th standard mymom used to drop and pick me up from my school >> I didn't have many friends then >> but when in 11th My mom became ill >> then I started to come alone >> and in just 1 year I was socialised with most of the class >> we should be keen to help others in what ever way we can >> then nobody can remain alone without a group >> earlier my friends used to have a fear in their mind about handling me >> but now the hold my hand but I take care of my self >> in markets molls or cinemas >> >> regards >> >> On 11/28/11, Zujar Shabbir Kanchwala <[email protected]> wrote: >>> I agree with Ajay, I have been through similar situations in >>> school/college. I remember my first day in college when I could not >>> find anyone of my school mates, so just went and sat besides an >>> unknown student who was constantly talking with his school buddy on >>> the other side. Some teachers asked us to introduce ourselves with >>> name and marks for the specific subject where I was one of the top >>> scorers. By the end of the day, my bench partner asked me how I would >>> go home, how I study, etc and the next day, he asked me if I need >>> something from the canteen. I joined him to the canteen and thereafter >>> we became friends. I've experienced that people are more comfortable >>> with independent movers maybe, they feel like being free from worrying >>> about the challenged friend. Everyone on the list must have had unique >>> experiences and may think in their own way. >>> >>> On 11/28/11, Alla rakhi <[email protected]> wrote: >>>> What has been said by ajay is absolutely true. You'll never be counted >>>> as a friend on equal terms by your sighted counterparts unless you're >>>> independant in mobility. but on the other hand, mind you that, if you >>>> can handle yourself independantly without being dependant all the time >>>> on others then you'll find that hardly do your sighted friends >>>> distinguish you from others. Be mobile and good in socialising and >>>> daily living skills, then you'll find most of things in the society >>>> become normal to you even if you are a totally blind. Mustering good >>>> mobility skills is no rocketry science but it definitely require a >>>> strong will power an a desire for it. >>>> >>>> On 11/28/11, Ajay Minocha <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>> Hi rahul >>>>> sorry for a long mail >>>>> >>>>> it may sound harsh to you >>>>> but the main problam is the sighted guide >>>>> please don't mind but after passing your 12th you should devote some >>>>> time specially to have a nice mobility training >>>>> and when you sit in your group >>>>> then you should take active partisipation in their conversations >>>>> they will automatically ask you for hang outs >>>>> I had also faced the same situation when I was at school >>>>> because school students have a fear in their mind about handeling a >>>>> blind or low vision person >>>>> I had a positive thing with me >>>>> that I used to be an outstanding student in my school as well as >>>>> college >>>>> so many people got excited to talk to me >>>>> and after that they became my good friends >>>>> when I passed my school I had a large number of friends and other >>>>> suggesting me to study with distence education plan >>>>> because they thought that going alone to college was not my cup of tea >>>>> my parents also thought that way >>>>> but when I went to college they are quite satisfied with me >>>>> I also remember the 1st day of my college >>>>> One of my sighted friend who was my class mate earlier >>>>> had dropped me to my class >>>>> an unknown person helped me to aquire a seet in class >>>>> when the lecturor came she asked us to present our selves by giving a >>>>> brief introduction >>>>> I was the 1st to go >>>>> when I finished my introduction the lecturor asked me some special >>>>> questions about my life >>>>> which I answered quite patiently >>>>> then I had allmost 10 to 15 people gathered around me >>>>> after the class they were qurious about their low vision friend >>>>> soon I got familiar with them >>>>> now they tell me that when we saw the very 1st day they we got very >>>>> imotional >>>>> specially the girls >>>>> they call me to see movie or just to have a nice hang out >>>>> they didn't had any idea to handle me >>>>> in earlier they used to pull me behind them >>>>> then I told them the right way to handle me >>>>> when I go in class then if I recorganise somebody I say hi to him or >>>>> her >>>>> if not then they will come to my seet to meet me >>>>> if you want some tips then get in touch >>>>> I will be happy to help you >>>>> regards >>>>> >>>>> On 11/28/11, shyam sharma <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>>> Hi Rahul, don't worry. Don't take it as a biggest problem of your >>>>>> life. As far as I think there is only one solution to it. If someone >>>>>> is not asking you then you should go and approach to him/her. Keep >>>>>> proving yourself to them that though you've not eyes but you can see >>>>>> everthing. keep friendship with them more strong than they do. Try to >>>>>> win their heart over. Never mind what their behaviour is to you just >>>>>> be positive and try everything without loosing your heart. >>>>>> One more important thing which I want to mention here that I would >>>>>> like to make friendship with you. Would you? >>>>>> >>>>>> [email protected] >>>>>> >>>>>> with warm regards: >>>>>> >>>>>> >>>>>> Search for old postings at: >>>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>>>> >>>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>>>> [email protected] >>>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>>>> >>>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>>>> please >>>>>> visit the list home page at >>>>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>>> >>>>>> >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> -- >>>>> Ajay Minocha >>>>> Mob : +91-7827188455 >>>>> E mail : [email protected] >>>>> [email protected] >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> Search for old postings at: >>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>>> >>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>>> [email protected] >>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>>> >>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>>> please >>>>> visit the list home page at >>>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>> >>>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> Search for old postings at: >>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>> >>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>> [email protected] >>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>> >>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>> please >>>> visit the list home page at >>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>> >>> >>> -- >>> Best Regards, >>> Zujar... >>> >>> An optimist laughs to forget, whereas a pessimist forgets to laugh! >>> >>> >>> Search for old postings at: >>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>> >>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>> [email protected] >>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>> >>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>> please >>> visit the list home page at >>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>> >>> >> >> >> -- >> Ajay Minocha >> Mob : +91-7827188455 >> E mail : [email protected] >> [email protected] >> >> >> Search for old postings at: >> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >> >> To unsubscribe send a message to >> [email protected] >> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >> please >> visit the list home page at >> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> > > > -- > Develop your personality and English at > http://PersonalityAndEnglish.blogspot.com/ > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > -- Best Regards, Zujar... 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