In the world we cannot expect every sighted person to get married to a blind person, even we cannot expect every blind person to get married to a blind person. Some of us might have rejected the proposal of sighted person not because of he or she is sighted but many reasons other vice. Or if we are rejected by sighted person, it might not be related to our blindness. Let me have the courage to make the statement, Many of we blind people have the habit to relate our rejection (not only in marriages but also in jobs and other sectors) to our blindness, but I am sure that if we are appealing to the required party then our blindness should not be of great concern. Yes having some doubt about our work efficiency is quite natural in the case of sighted partner, this may not be the case if we are engaged with blind partner. This is the time when we have to show our ability (not only through talking but also through working). Marrying to a sighted person or vice versa cannot guaranty of successful married life. It has very little to do with our blindness. I have married to a blind girl, We have not accepted each other because we are blind, blindness is just is a coincidence. Let me put in other words, My life partner happends to be a person with blindness. When we are in a hunt of life partner, we cannot over estimate the ability of sighted person and we should not under estimate the ability of blind partner.
On 7/2/14, Shadab Husain <[email protected]> wrote: > Hey Bhawani bhai, nice quotes! The key point is that there has to be some > "self-interest" for both the parties otherwise the friendship will end. A > person with financial poverty and emotional richness can provide emotional > support to the emotionally poor but financially rich one and thus can be > equal in status. Can we apply it on a blind marrying a sighted? Disagree > with it, but I won't - especially after seeing so many examples on Access > India. > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of bhawani shankar verma > Sent: 02 July 2014 07:13 > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are > normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners > > "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. Such > friendships will never give you any happiness." > - Chanakya > > "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no > friendship > without self-interests. This is a bitter truth." > - Chanakya > > both quotations should also be applied regarding partnership. marriage is a > social partnership between to parties where they have joined each other to > satisfy their physical and emotional desires. > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "aditi shah" <[email protected]> > To: "accessindia" <[email protected]> > Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 6:24 PM > Subject: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are > normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners > > >> Hi there everyone, >> Have been reading this discussion since a few days, so felt like >> expressing my views as well. >> >> We are all humans blind or not, and we have our own set of skills. >> There might be areas we are extremely good at or there might be areas >> we cannot do much, in case of us blind it may be because of our >> disability whereas incase of sighted it might be due to other reasons. >> According to me, a happy married life demands a set of some basic >> skills, like understanding, cooking, up bringing of kids, earning, >> socializing, etc. >> Again, these basic requirements differ depending on what kind of a >> lifestyle one has. >> So, in my view, it does not really matter whether we are marrying a >> sighted or a blind, what matters is whether our's and our partner's >> skills can meet those basic requirements or not. >> Considering this, I disagree from the belief that if a blind has to >> marry a sighted, he has to make compromises like marrying someone >> economically or intellectually weaker than us. >> If a blind who is earning well or is from a well-to-do family or may >> be is extremely qualified marries a sighted from a weaker economic >> background or qualification, it is not a compromise as far as both >> partners together possess the required skills. >> Even if a blind is marrying a blind, and both of them can manage to do >> the required things, may be in ways different than the normal world, >> they can indeed have a successful married life. >> >> So, it is not about being blind or sighted, it is always about finding >> that someone such that with understanding, you can both match up for >> each other's shortcomings. >> Life partners are like two pieces of a puzzle, one has to find the >> other half that fits perfectly, lest we got to spend our entire life >> filling the gaps. >> >> Regards, >> aditi >> >> >> >> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing >> accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: >> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_acc >> essindia.org.in >> >> >> Search for old postings at: >> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >> >> To unsubscribe send a message to >> [email protected] >> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >> please visit the list home page at >> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org >> .in >> >> >> Disclaimer: >> 1. 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