I think we are lacking self esteem to a very large digree! Not anyones fault, but we now need to become aware of this fact and start taking responsibility to work on this positively. The very fact that all this is surfacing here is a great positive sign! At least when we begin to define and diagnose the issues, we are on the way to find solutions and treat the trouble! Thank you for participating on this mail thread. Let us hold on to each other and help each other out of this pit of low self esteem and confidence! For if this elite group is suffering from this, can you imagine what is the condition of the huge numbers of blind people who are so much less fortunate than many of us? First of all we have to help ourselves, only then we can begin to pull others with us! We are the ones who will make the change for the better for all of us. Preeti
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Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners very true rajesh sir, compromise or rare. you summed up properly which i couldn't On 7/2/14, Asudani, Rajesh <[email protected]> wrote: > Well said Ishita. > Motivation is ok, but marriages between blind and sighted, without > compromise are rare.. > > Please remember beggars are not choosers.... > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of ishita kapoor > Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 2:10 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are > normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners > > I have found the argument of bhavani sir more realistic. > Preety madam, if your aim is just to motivate us then your points are > valid. > I have 40 percent vision. > And if I lose it no sighted person will even think to marry me even in > dream unless he has social or economical problems. > In that case a guy will marry me if he won’t get proper match rather > any girl in able bodied world, > Or if I can offer him lots of money if he is poor > Or I have nice job and he has no earning capacity. > Otherwise no sighted person will marry me just for the sake of charity. > And I don’t have any bitter feeling for this belief. > Because everyone has right to choose a life partner who is equal in all > aspects > I can’t marry with the guy who doesn’t have both arms and both legs. > The same way I shouldn’t expect such charity from any able bodied man. > And yes I won’t get promotion if I ask my boss to touch his clothes by > saying: sir log kafi tariff kar rahe hai chalo mai bhi chhoo ke dekhu > to tariff kar saku. > I don’t have much experience but still I would like to advice all > youngsters that please don’t do this. > Don’t ask anyone that: sir ya madam mai apke kapde dekhna chahta hun > ya chahti hun. > > > On 7/2/14, Preeti Monga <[email protected]> wrote: >> You are very right! >> Preeti >> >> Preeti Monga >> Director >> >> >> >> Mobile: +91 9871701646 >> Landline: 011 22781446 >> E-mail: [email protected] >> Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org >> Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training >> –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – >> Corporate >> ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying >> workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and >> Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. >> >> We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete >> customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. >> >> >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >> Behalf >> Of Zoher Kheriwala >> Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 11:44 AM >> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues >> concerning >> the disabled. >> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >> In the world we cannot expect every sighted person to get married to a >> blind person, even we cannot expect every blind person to get married >> to a blind person. Some of us might have rejected the proposal of >> sighted person not because of he or she is sighted but many reasons >> other vice. Or if we are rejected by sighted person, it might not be >> related to our blindness. >> Let me have the courage to make the statement, Many of we blind people >> have the habit to relate our rejection (not only in marriages but also >> in jobs and other sectors) to our blindness, but I am sure that if we >> are appealing to the required party then our blindness should not be >> of great concern. Yes having some doubt about our work efficiency is >> quite natural in the case of sighted partner, this may not be the case >> if we are engaged with blind partner. This is the time when we have to >> show our ability (not only through talking but also through working). >> Marrying to a sighted person or vice versa cannot guaranty of >> successful married life. It has very little to do with our blindness. >> I have married to a blind girl, We have not accepted each other >> because we are blind, blindness is just is a coincidence. Let me put >> in other words, My life partner happends to be a person with >> blindness. >> When we are in a hunt of life partner, we cannot over estimate the >> ability of sighted person and we should not under estimate the ability >> of blind partner. >> >> >> On 7/2/14, Shadab Husain <[email protected]> wrote: >>> Hey Bhawani bhai, nice quotes! The key point is that there has to be >>> some >>> "self-interest" for both the parties otherwise the friendship will end. >>> A >>> person with financial poverty and emotional richness can provide >>> emotional >>> support to the emotionally poor but financially rich one and thus can be >>> equal in status. Can we apply it on a blind marrying a sighted? Disagree >>> with it, but I won't - especially after seeing so many examples on >>> Access >>> India. >>> >>> -----Original Message----- >>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >> Behalf >>> Of bhawani shankar verma >>> Sent: 02 July 2014 07:13 >>> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and >>> issuesconcerning >>> the disabled. >>> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >>> >>> "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. >>> Such >>> friendships will never give you any happiness." >>> - Chanakya >>> >>> "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no >>> friendship >>> without self-interests. This is a bitter truth." >>> - Chanakya >>> >>> both quotations should also be applied regarding partnership. marriage >>> is >> a >>> social partnership between to parties where they have joined each other >>> to >>> satisfy their physical and emotional desires. >>> >>> ----- Original Message ----- >>> From: "aditi shah" <[email protected]> >>> To: "accessindia" <[email protected]> >>> Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 6:24 PM >>> Subject: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >>> >>> >>>> Hi there everyone, >>>> Have been reading this discussion since a few days, so felt like >>>> expressing my views as well. >>>> >>>> We are all humans blind or not, and we have our own set of skills. >>>> There might be areas we are extremely good at or there might be areas >>>> we cannot do much, in case of us blind it may be because of our >>>> disability whereas incase of sighted it might be due to other reasons. >>>> According to me, a happy married life demands a set of some basic >>>> skills, like understanding, cooking, up bringing of kids, earning, >>>> socializing, etc. >>>> Again, these basic requirements differ depending on what kind of a >>>> lifestyle one has. >>>> So, in my view, it does not really matter whether we are marrying a >>>> sighted or a blind, what matters is whether our's and our partner's >>>> skills can meet those basic requirements or not. >>>> Considering this, I disagree from the belief that if a blind has to >>>> marry a sighted, he has to make compromises like marrying someone >>>> economically or intellectually weaker than us. >>>> If a blind who is earning well or is from a well-to-do family or may >>>> be is extremely qualified marries a sighted from a weaker economic >>>> background or qualification, it is not a compromise as far as both >>>> partners together possess the required skills. >>>> Even if a blind is marrying a blind, and both of them can manage to do >>>> the required things, may be in ways different than the normal world, >>>> they can indeed have a successful married life. >>>> >>>> So, it is not about being blind or sighted, it is always about finding >>>> that someone such that with understanding, you can both match up for >>>> each other's shortcomings. >>>> Life partners are like two pieces of a puzzle, one has to find the >>>> other half that fits perfectly, lest we got to spend our entire life >>>> filling the gaps. >>>> >>>> Regards, >>>> aditi >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing >>>> accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: >>>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_acc >>>> essindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>>> Search for old postings at: >>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>> >>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>> [email protected] >>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>> >>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>> please visit the list home page at >>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org >>>> .in >>>> >>>> >>>> Disclaimer: >>>> 1. 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