When did I say blindness does not matter? I have been totally blind all my life and also am a womam! I was rejected for marriage by at least 150 men, both blind and sighted! But, then I took matters into my own hands! Things changed! I worked upon my positive points, still do, and as you know, have married twice! I even decided to leave my first husband after trying to work that marriage for 11 years! Remarried again and this time I learnt and we are happy! We make our reality all of us! Reality is what you make of it... but, it is a huge responsibility to take on all that I am talking about! The world will slowly change, it is changing, and we need to help make the change. No one likes to share things with others. So the easiest way to not share good things with others, is to point out any old thing about them and say that because of that we are not good enough to deserve our rightful place in the society! And for us blind people, we are functioning in this world, a world which has been created by sighted people for sighted people! Do you even begin to realize your own power and potential? You are succeeding to function successfully in a world that is not made for you? So dont easily give away your power... you guys are simply fantistic! Just begin to believe this and see the transformation that will happen around! I am not asking you to become big headed, but at least give yourselves the credit for what you all are doing! Don't worry about abut how others think of blind people. We are what we are without sight... let them try doing half the things we do even with sight! Preeti Preeti Monga Director
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Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners Priti jee you have not understood what I said. society leaves blind or other disadvantaged with very less choice. I too have married a sighted girl and a few blind friends of mine have married sighted boys and girls. but it does not make the world rosy. Self perception matters, but it should be realistic. Then only can you bring about a few positive changes in yourself and in the world around. Saying that all is well, is the greatest euphimism. Blindness is a really major challenge to be lived with and the spouse must understand it well. So, blindness does not matter argument is fallacious. -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of ishita kapoor Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 2:50 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear preety madam, I can understand through your real example that marriage between disable and non disable is not always disastrous But I am being reasonable in stead of being positive or negative. If a person gets able bodied life partner then why he or she should accept blind person? Madam, this isn’t question of Indian or American mentality. Blindness is big problem. Blindness is not as simple and easy as you are describing. Fortunatlly I have vision right now. But if I will loss it, people will know me by my blindness more then my real name. If I will do something good, they will say: see that blind girl has done really great job. If I will fail in something they will say: bechari blind hai to thik se nahi kar paai. Blindness will always come first in our over all personality. People can accept us as a friend or employee easily with our blindness. But the same people will think twice before accepting blind life partner. Rather they will accept blind person as his or her life partner in majburi only. On 7/2/14, Preeti Monga <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in> wrote: > Hey, who are these beggers? Not any of us here I hope? You all are all doing > wonderfully well... then why are we calling ourselves, or even indicating > towards ourselves as beggers! > > Life is our choice, you are whatever you have chosen to be... so let us > first of all choose to be beggers! We all deserve the best! How are we going > to convince the world that we are great human beings, when we are still > referring to ourselves as beggers? I think we need to begin at the very > beginning. Incidently, we have a major disability, on top of that we go > ahead and subscribe to being beggers! Amazing! We first have to look at > ourselves as the true people we actually are! If we are still not able to do > this, how are we even expecting the non disabled society to look at us > differently? The world perceives you in the same way that you look at > yourself! Please remember, it is that simple! This is our world, and we are > choosing to remain on the dark side of it, then why complain at the way we > get treated? If you say your name is 'begger' then that is exactly what you > will be called as or refered to by others! This is what is meant by > conditioning. > > Please do understand, all, each one of us is the very best and we have > equal right and equal duties by this world! Perform your duties to the best > of your abilities, and your rights will come running after you! > Warmly > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org > Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate > ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Asudani, Rajesh > Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 2:24 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are > normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners > > Well said Ishita. > Motivation is ok, but marriages between blind and sighted, without > compromise are rare.. > > Please remember beggars are not choosers.... > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of ishita kapoor > Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 2:10 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are > normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners > > I have found the argument of bhavani sir more realistic. > Preety madam, if your aim is just to motivate us then your points are valid. > I have 40 percent vision. > And if I lose it no sighted person will even think to marry me even in > dream unless he has social or economical problems. > In that case a guy will marry me if he won’t get proper match rather > any girl in able bodied world, > Or if I can offer him lots of money if he is poor > Or I have nice job and he has no earning capacity. > Otherwise no sighted person will marry me just for the sake of charity. > And I don’t have any bitter feeling for this belief. > Because everyone has right to choose a life partner who is equal in all > aspects > I can’t marry with the guy who doesn’t have both arms and both legs. > The same way I shouldn’t expect such charity from any able bodied man. > And yes I won’t get promotion if I ask my boss to touch his clothes by > saying: sir log kafi tariff kar rahe hai chalo mai bhi chhoo ke dekhu > to tariff kar saku. > I don’t have much experience but still I would like to advice all > youngsters that please don’t do this. > Don’t ask anyone that: sir ya madam mai apke kapde dekhna chahta hun > ya chahti hun. > > > On 7/2/14, Preeti Monga <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in> wrote: >> You are very right! >> Preeti >> >> Preeti Monga >> Director >> >> >> >> Mobile: +91 9871701646 >> Landline: 011 22781446 >> E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in >> Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org >> Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training >> –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – >> Corporate >> ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying >> workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and >> Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. >> >> We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete >> customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. >> >> >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On >> Behalf >> Of Zoher Kheriwala >> Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 11:44 AM >> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning >> the disabled. >> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >> In the world we cannot expect every sighted person to get married to a >> blind person, even we cannot expect every blind person to get married >> to a blind person. Some of us might have rejected the proposal of >> sighted person not because of he or she is sighted but many reasons >> other vice. Or if we are rejected by sighted person, it might not be >> related to our blindness. >> Let me have the courage to make the statement, Many of we blind people >> have the habit to relate our rejection (not only in marriages but also >> in jobs and other sectors) to our blindness, but I am sure that if we >> are appealing to the required party then our blindness should not be >> of great concern. Yes having some doubt about our work efficiency is >> quite natural in the case of sighted partner, this may not be the case >> if we are engaged with blind partner. This is the time when we have to >> show our ability (not only through talking but also through working). >> Marrying to a sighted person or vice versa cannot guaranty of >> successful married life. It has very little to do with our blindness. >> I have married to a blind girl, We have not accepted each other >> because we are blind, blindness is just is a coincidence. Let me put >> in other words, My life partner happends to be a person with >> blindness. >> When we are in a hunt of life partner, we cannot over estimate the >> ability of sighted person and we should not under estimate the ability >> of blind partner. >> >> >> On 7/2/14, Shadab Husain <shadab...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> Hey Bhawani bhai, nice quotes! The key point is that there has to be some >>> "self-interest" for both the parties otherwise the friendship will end. A >>> person with financial poverty and emotional richness can provide >>> emotional >>> support to the emotionally poor but financially rich one and thus can be >>> equal in status. Can we apply it on a blind marrying a sighted? Disagree >>> with it, but I won't - especially after seeing so many examples on Access >>> India. >>> >>> -----Original Message----- >>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On >> Behalf >>> Of bhawani shankar verma >>> Sent: 02 July 2014 07:13 >>> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning >>> the disabled. >>> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >>> >>> "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. >>> Such >>> friendships will never give you any happiness." >>> - Chanakya >>> >>> "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no >>> friendship >>> without self-interests. This is a bitter truth." >>> - Chanakya >>> >>> both quotations should also be applied regarding partnership. marriage is >> a >>> social partnership between to parties where they have joined each other >>> to >>> satisfy their physical and emotional desires. >>> >>> ----- Original Message ----- >>> From: "aditi shah" <shahaditi1...@gmail.com> >>> To: "accessindia" <accessindia@accessindia.org.in> >>> Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 6:24 PM >>> Subject: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >>> >>> >>>> Hi there everyone, >>>> Have been reading this discussion since a few days, so felt like >>>> expressing my views as well. >>>> >>>> We are all humans blind or not, and we have our own set of skills. >>>> There might be areas we are extremely good at or there might be areas >>>> we cannot do much, in case of us blind it may be because of our >>>> disability whereas incase of sighted it might be due to other reasons. >>>> According to me, a happy married life demands a set of some basic >>>> skills, like understanding, cooking, up bringing of kids, earning, >>>> socializing, etc. >>>> Again, these basic requirements differ depending on what kind of a >>>> lifestyle one has. >>>> So, in my view, it does not really matter whether we are marrying a >>>> sighted or a blind, what matters is whether our's and our partner's >>>> skills can meet those basic requirements or not. >>>> Considering this, I disagree from the belief that if a blind has to >>>> marry a sighted, he has to make compromises like marrying someone >>>> economically or intellectually weaker than us. >>>> If a blind who is earning well or is from a well-to-do family or may >>>> be is extremely qualified marries a sighted from a weaker economic >>>> background or qualification, it is not a compromise as far as both >>>> partners together possess the required skills. >>>> Even if a blind is marrying a blind, and both of them can manage to do >>>> the required things, may be in ways different than the normal world, >>>> they can indeed have a successful married life. >>>> >>>> So, it is not about being blind or sighted, it is always about finding >>>> that someone such that with understanding, you can both match up for >>>> each other's shortcomings. >>>> Life partners are like two pieces of a puzzle, one has to find the >>>> other half that fits perfectly, lest we got to spend our entire life >>>> filling the gaps. >>>> >>>> Regards, >>>> aditi >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing >>>> accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: >>>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_acc >>>> essindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>>> Search for old postings at: >>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >>>> >>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>> >>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>> please visit the list home page at >>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org >>>> .in >>>> >>>> >>>> Disclaimer: >>>> 1. 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