Rodger, Your comments sound a bit patronising and sarcastic. My only point was the don't be with a woman unless there is a deep connection from the soul level. My girlfriend was a Zen Buddhist and she was also a beautiful woman(in the eyes of all beholders). In retrospect, I can only say that I have learnt a million things from her and I wish I had not left her. She was also my inspiration for trying to achieve self-realization and go all the way through it at all cost. I only left her because I wanted to start afresh and enjoy life without burdens. As much as I loved her, I also wanted to be free and try out new things in life. I need my distance and need lots of space as I am a very strong individualist. The problem was that I had got myself moulded into her ways and I needed to break that pattern. I am very grateful. She was just a feather in my cap and probably the best friend I could ever have. I hope to find another one like her which will be very difficult.
On Mon, Jul 26, 2010 at 4:41 PM, Rodger <[email protected]> wrote: > > RS, a couple of things: > > Women don't have egos.Every woman is an ego.Men,too,by the way. > > Takes two to tango.When two egos tango and both want to lead... > > > "Don't walk in front of me,I don't want to follow. > Don't walk behind me,I don't want to lead. > Walk beside me and just be my friend". > > Sorry about your bad (tragic?) experience. > Learn from it. > Self-inquiry...not women or girlfriend inquiry. > > When you have been married 29 years,like I have been,then tell me > about marriage. > > And where did you get '99.9% of women don't care about enlightenment'? > Off the top of your head or is that an actual number taken from some > kind of survey? What about men? What's the percentage? > > I see a lot of men doing exactly what you describe women doing...good > looking ones and ugly ones.Good looking or ugly doesn't seem to > matter.Besides,good looking and ugly is in the eye of the beholder. > > Good luck in any future relationships. > > > > > On Jul 26, 10:12 am, roomsearching <[email protected]> wrote: > > Kali, > > > > Everything is possible. I am just saying that its much easier to reach > > enlightenment without a bitch beside you who screws up your mind. > > Especially ones who go to parties, try control and manipulate you and > tell > > you what to do , what to wear, constantly nagging you, comparing you with > > other men, running after other men, cheating on you, shopping all the > time > > -- all these things happen very normally. And most women don't give a > shit > > about enlightenment ie. 99.99 % of women. An ego is an ego and all women > > have it. I have never been married but I have had a very destructive > > girlfriend who was very good looking. Obviously you have to have an ugly > > good hearted wife for a supportive relationship. I don't think I need an > > ugly partner as I think it will destroy my life, unless I really fall in > > love with her - which is not very probable. To be honest, I really have > no > > interest in women and try to be as far away from them as possible. Of > > course, these are all just my thoughts. I may be married in a couple of > > years. But at the moment I am just enjoying my bachelorhood at the age of > > 30. > > > > > > > > On Mon, Jul 26, 2010 at 4:02 PM, Mahakali <[email protected]> > wrote: > > > Hi RS > > > > > has it ever occurred to you that, perhaps, the wife in question i.e. > > > married to an enlightened man, might be of the supportive type rather > > > than the non-supportive type? > > > > > If a guru's marriage does not work, is it fair to attribute that the > > > fact he is enlightened? Or, is the guru - for example Eli (Gangaji's > > > husband) - just another human being making human mistakes and faults? > > > Are gurus allowed to be human or are they to be put on a pedestal? > > > > > Kali > > > > > On 26 Lug, 15:41, roomsearching <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > It happened to me already. So you are still on the waiting list. And > > > married > > > > people can forget about it. > > > > Marriage and enlightenment do not go together. UG had to leave his > family > > > > behind and live like a vagabond to reach enlightenment. > > > > If you talk about things like enlightenment, your wife will kill you. > > > > > > On Mon, Jul 26, 2010 at 2:28 PM, <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Are you waiting for some kind of mystical sensation to confirm > > > > > enlightenment happened? > > > > > Can enlightenment happen without no associated special sensation? > > > > > Sent via BlackBerry from Vodafone- Nascondi testo citato > > > > > > - Mostra testo citato - >
