Well, now that I have slept on it ................ "You really have missed the entire point of that part of the teaching!"
I'm guessing the above was directed towards me. Well, like I pointed out before. I spent 45 years candy coating, avoiding conflict and confrontation. Trying to keep every one happy and oh ya, in love with Bob. I not long ago realized that. I'm just now taking ownership of my own life. It actually feels pretty good ......... really pretty great. I really haven't missed the point. This is changing and has changed everything ....... for me. It's not about my employee's motivation or work ethics. Sure they are taking advantage as Mahakali pointed out .... it's human nature. They took advantage because I allowed it. It's about me regaining ownership of the company. If I couldn't own my own life and be true to myself, I certainly couldn't with a company. I've allowed this to happen and now I'm going to take it back. See ............. this was good. On Jul 29, 3:58 am, Rodger <[email protected]> wrote: > Good morning,Bob. > Read through the responses from others...a gold mine of info there.In > your own posts as well. > Hope today is a better day for you. > > On Jul 29, 2:29 am, Mark Ty-Wharton <[email protected]> wrote: > > > You really have missed the entire point of that part of the teaching! > > > Sent from an iPhone > > > On 29 Jul 2010, at 06:11, roomsearching <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > There is no office and there are no employees. > > > There are no responsibilities. > > > There is only the Self. > > > The whole universe resides in your heart. > > > Let the mind dive into your heart. > > > Just be. > > > > On Thu, Jul 29, 2010 at 4:13 AM, Sandeep-Kuber Technologies > > > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Hiya Bob, > > > > Some two bits from one who has run task forces, simultaneously located > > > in different countries. > > > > Bob1357 wrote: > > > >> I am having a little..... no ...... a lot of difficulty today with > > >> anger. > > >> I gave my employees a priority list today. > > >> A list geared so that a ten year old could understand it. > > > > Yep. > > > > But did you ensure that they got "your" priorities? > > > > It is very interesting that even with the seniors in your team......how > > > there is a wide encompassing difference between what you are outlaying > > > and what is getting heard as being outlayed. > > > > What is agreed to be done and what gets done finally is often a yawning > > > gap. > > > >> Nothing was done in order, nothing was done correctly and most of what > > >> I asked was not done at all. > > > > Aah well...very familiar space. > > > > Was it something like a day project or several days project? > > > > Depending on how crucial the project is, I always insisted on immediate, > > > short term milestones..... > > > ...so that there is a possibility of mid-course corrections/appropriate > > > actions to be taken. > > > > The mile-stones could as short-term as who does what, immediately after > > > then meeting is over and people troop > > > back to their work-stations. > > > > Or what must happen in the immediate 1 hour, mid-day, end of day, > > > mid-week, end of week etc etc. > > > > You cannot monitor what you cannot measure. > > > > Obviously the level of micro-planning depends on the complexity and > > > importance of the project.... > > > ....but sometimes I would insist on such mile-stones related time-lines > > > even in the most ordinary of projects so that we all learnt to work with > > > the same methodology and focus, irrespective of the importance/scope of > > > the project. > > > > And each missed mile-stone.........must ring a bell somewhere. > > > > You cannot try to plug a breach when the dam has totally cracked up. > > > >> I completely exploded when I showed up at the job site this afternoon. > > >> I was furious. > > >> I don't do furious and I don't explode. > > > > So obviously, something "more" was/had got compromised. > > > > What was that? > > > >> Perhaps things are coming to a head and I am realizing that I can not > > >> rely on others. > > > > That might be an assessment that needs to be made when things are more > > > settled... > > > ..you may have to weed out the weeds in your team. > > > > And start with the weeds in oneself. > > > > After all the team that you have is the team that you had all the time > > > until now. > > > >> One thing that really gets me bent is the fact that they are all so > > >> much in the dark. > > >> Eating, drinking, fucking, and sleeping is all they seem to care > > >> about. > > > > Why on earth should they care about anything else? > > > > For them, the job with you is a means to doing stuff. > > > > Is it not so for you, just that the stuff-to-be-done may be somewhat > > > different to those listed? > > > > If for you, the job.......is a completion in itself.... > > > > ...then you have to show that to your team.......as the quality of > > > oneself. > > > >> There like animals at times. Me me me mine mine mine > > >> Perhaps I need "employees" with a raised or slightly higher > > >> consciousness than what my current employees have. > > > > :-)) > > > > Good luck. > > > > Share, your pay-offs with your team and show how in your pay-off, lies > > > their pay-offs. > > > >> I have pointed to the problems over and over but they just don't seem > > >> to get it or care. > > >> Perhaps my standards are too high. > > >> Perhaps it is all my fault for letting fuck ups and mistakes slide so > > >> easily. > > >> Perhaps they have learned that they can get away with what ever they > > >> want because Bob is nice. > > > > Yes. > > > > How far the envelope can be pushed......is always the game getting played > > > out. > > > > Why were you being nice, when faced with incompetence or neglect? > > > > What was in it for you? > > > >> I do believe that within all this chaos there is something unraveling. > > >> Unfortunately I am so filled with anger and a sense of betrayal that I > > >> can not see it. > > > > Can you see the anger and sense of betrayal? > > > > Be with that. > > > > And see what is it that you are really pissed off at.......what is it > > > that really has got betrayed. > > > >> I am confused at how I can let another influence my mood today. > > > > Eh? > > > > How else are any moods generated, except as an impact of an other? > > > >> I am not an angry person. > > >> My head hurts. > > >> Just venting, thanks to those for reading. > > >> Sorry for being so much off the subject of non- dual, but that is one > > >> of the things that is bothering me too. > > >> I mean, seeing them fuck up and act so irresponsibly ...... Is that > > >> part of me? > > > > It's really not them........but the fuck-up that has taken place in you, > > > through the acts of the others. > > > > What is that? > > > >> Do I actually have some of those qualities? > > >> Am I to learn from this and find these hidden quirks within and > > >> correct them? > > > > Sure. > > > > If you are moved to. > > > > The other as a mirror is always something to be grateful to.......for it > > > is the other which exposes oneself. > > > >> Ok ...... Now my head hurts more. > > > > Take a long walk. > > > > And then sit with some of the finest Lagavulin and get amused with the > > > comedy of it all.
