> I think it all hinges on whether a particular issue *matters* to one or both parties. Speaking for myself, if anyone told me I was going to have to change to suit them, I would drop them like a hot rock. If someone doesnt like you pretty much as you are, there aint no love there, its just some form of lust. Lust doesnt have to be about looks or the shape of someones body. I have lusted after personality, charisma, charm, ability, and even freedom of spirit in various women I have been interested in. I used to think that I would find someone who would make me a complete person, and it took a while to figure out that *I* was the person who made me complete. This made me a less "needy" person and made me more desireable to others.
A person who feels the need to have total control before this person feels loved has some pretty serious issues. This person is not likely to be very happy and will make anyone they are with as unhappy as they are. Beware of the narcissist syndrome. You cant convince some people that the world doesnt revolve around them. Beware of people who "Objectify" the opposite sex. No one can live up to their expectations. Beware of people who are so strongly infected with "fairy tale" memes of love that they deny the way love works in the real world. (Basicly what everyone else on the list has said) xponent Growth Maru rob
