First of all, how long have they been there? If it's been a while you might want to ask how they are doing on finding a place. Most people would take this as a signal that they are outstaying their welcome. Assuming that these are rational people that you can talk to :)
I am not sure I follow your cellphone story. Is it your phone and they are using it? if so this calls for confrontation, though you can make this low-key and polite. If he "causes serious property damage" call 9/11. If they aren't paying rent then they aren't entitled to stay. Unless you allow it. I have been in this situation a few times, and it can get awkward. The one that finished the best was when I announced I was moving out of state. This was a woman I knew who was working her butt off paying a motel bill. I told her she was never going to get a security deposit together that way and invited her to stay in my extra bedroom. Problem was that she used to dump her two-year-old twins off on her 14-yo daughter, who wasn't interested in watching them. Meanwhile Mom acquired a boyfriend with AIDS and paying *his* motel bill cause lord forbid he have to sleep at the mission or anything. Anyway, when I moved out she was still there. I figured she and my landlord deserved each other and left it at that. Two other situations I can think of got kind of ugly. My suggestion would be to have Tiff talk to her friend and find out what is going on. Maybe it's a stereotype, but in general women don't solve thier problems with property damage. his converation need not end in an ultimatum unless she thinks it is called for, but.. for all you know they are out apartment-shopping right now. Right? Let's hope. >So... > >Tiff has an old friend who's very important to her and she was having >problems with her family -- she's recently of legal age to move out, >so of course this was a priority for her. So Tiff offered to let her >stay with us -- but she's not single. Her boyfriend's been having >problems with his family also and neither of them had any money saved, >which isn't unusual for people in their early twenties. So we helped >them out, we paid for train tickets for them to come down from >Connecticut and let them stay with us temporarily until they can get >on their feet. > >Today Tiff is gathering laundry and we were going to be nice and do >some laundry for them (they went out drinking last night and haven't >been back yet), and while she's gathering the laundry she finds two >cell-phones in their bag. One that he'd broken and melted (which we >knew about) and another Nextel phone... hmmm... Nextel... that's the >provider we ... So we turn the phone on ... the phone book has all his >contacts in it -- including some person or place called "nipples" (not >that this is a bad thing, just definately not my contact). Though the >"my info" section of the menu lists a 214 number (from Dallas, TX >where we were when we got our phones -- they came from Connecticut -- >it's all the way across the country), and the name still says "ike". > >Unfortunately we've discovered after they moved in that the >boyfriend's got a criminal record and has been known to cause serious >property damage over disagreements with no notable conscience about >it. Wherein lies our problem. We can't let him stay here knowing that >we can't trust him, and if we kick him out, we can expect to no longer >have a car or other property. I can't afford to have my computer >melted. > >:-( > > >s. isaac dealey 954.927.5117 >new epoch : isn't it time for a change? > >add features without fixtures with >the onTap open source framework > >http://macromedia.breezecentral.com/p49777853/ >http://www.sys-con.com/story/?storyid=44477&DE=1 >http://www.sys-con.com/story/?storyid=45569&DE=1 >http://www.fusiontap.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Special thanks to the CF Community Suite Silver Sponsor - RUWebby http://www.ruwebby.com Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:140550 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
