I'm a man who would LOVE to be a "loser" - guess I need to decrease the food and increase the exercise... <sigh> :-) -Ben
> -----Original Message----- > From: Erika L. Walker-Arnold [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Saturday, April 06, 2002 2:52 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > Having been in a very, very long (8 years), good/bad > relationship with a man > who has a gambling problem, that codependency thing .... it's > a hard thing > to shake. > > We know the man is a loser...or should I say, not right for > us, but we love > them. We think they need us, because nothing else is right in > their lives > .. only to find out, we were not anywhere close to the top of their > priority list, no matter how much they said we were. > > He was never mean to me. Helped with the dishes, the laundry, did the > shopping, but in the end, because of gambling, everything > disintegrated. I > ended up supporting the both of us. > > It took me two years to break up with him, because it killed > me to hurt him, > but in the end it was only hurting me, but I have to say, I > would do it all > over again, because the path I took led me to Phil, the > choices I made, gave > me the opportunity to be where I am today. We had tons of > great times, but > I'll never forget the lessons I learned. > > She may, someday, see that she is in a dead-end road, and > hopefully, she > will have learned something. > > Erika > ------------------------------------------------------------ > > >>|-----Original Message----- > >>|From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >>| > >>|Because she is a pitiful codependent freak. > >>| > >>|----- Original Message ----- > >>|From: "Howard Owens" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 9:38 PM > >>|Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > >>| > >>| > >>|> Why does she stay with this loser? > >>|> > >>|> One of the discussions my wife and I have all the time -- > >>|cause it drives > >>|> her up the wall -- is women who make bad choices in > >>|boyfriends/husbands. > >>|> She has a couple of friends who have been in one bad > relationship after > >>|> another. When she tells them they should find a nice stable guy, > >>|employed, > >>|> a little nerdy, not living the fast life, they say, "Oh, a guy > >>|like that > >>|> wouldn't be enough of a challenge; he wouldn't be > interesting enough." > >>|Some > >>|> women want it all -- a guy who is wild, carefree, dangerous, > >>|but doesn't > >>|> sleep around or abuse them or use them. Good luck > finding that guy. > >>|> > >>|> H. > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> -----Original Message----- > >>|> From: Beth F [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 1:55 PM > >>|> To: CF-Community > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> I forgot the kicker- he spends all her money on drugs too > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> ----- Original Message ----- > >>|> From: "Larry C. Lyons" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 11:54 AM > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> > Seems to me that friend's husband is thinking he has a > >>|pretty good deal, > >>|> > she supports him, cleans up after him, etc. It sounds > like he has a > >>|> servant > >>|> > rather than a wife. > >>|> > > >>|> > larry > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> > At 09:46 AM 4/5/02 -0900, you wrote: > >>|> > > > Wait a minute. What about when a woman marries a man > >>|who tells her > >>|> that > >>|> > >it is her responsibility to cook, clean, etc.? Isn't > her choice to > >>|marry > >>|> a > >>|> > >man like that the same as choosing it herself? Do you take > >>|issue with > >>|> what > >>|> > >she's being told to do or the fact that she's being told to do > >>|anything? > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > >Well as far as my relationships go, I personally don't > >>|think partners > >>|> should > >>|> > >TELL each other to do anything - they ask. > >>|> > > > >>|> > >If both the woman and the man feel that its her job > to do all the > >>|cooking > >>|> > >and cleaning then its her choice. > >>|> > > > >>|> > >But i have a friend who is married to a guy who is jobless. > >>|He stays at > >>|> home > >>|> > >with a four year old but refuses to do any cooking, > >>|cleaning or laundry > >>|> or > >>|> > >shopping.... She asked him to pitch in and he said > "What am I, the > >>|> maid?" > >>|> > > > >>|> > >So he feels its her job to do all of the working, cleaning, > >>|cooking and > >>|> > >laundry because he isnt' the maid (i.e. because he > isn't female). > >>|Thats > >>|> > >bullshit, plain and simple. > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > >>|> > >>|> > >>| > ______________________________________________________________________ Structure your ColdFusion code with Fusebox. Get the official book at http://www.fusionauthority.com/bkinfo.cfm Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
