In my lifetime I was codependent to a meth addict (although I didn't know he was, thats how dumb I was) so I do understand. So, I do understand. However, I also understand that this woman is subjecting her kids to a horrible life and I simply cannot respect it, nor understand THAT. Kids come first. IF you can't put kids first give them to someone who can.
----- Original Message ----- From: "William Wheatley" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Monday, April 08, 2002 1:01 PM Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > Thats a little mean to call someone pitiful codependent freak ;) > > You should be a smidge more understanding of the disorder before ya yammer > about how pitiful someone is ;) > > Face it we all do somethings that are pitiful ya know > > like me i bite my toe nails *JUST KIDDING* > > hehe > > > > Bill Wheatley > Director of Development > AEPS INC > www.aeps.com > Macromedia ColdFusion Alliance Consulting Partner > Macromedia ColdFusion 5.0 Certified Developer > 954-472-6684 X303 > ICQ: 417645 > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Braver, Ben" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Monday, April 08, 2002 4:38 PM > Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > > I'm a man who would LOVE to be a "loser" - > > guess I need to decrease the food and increase the exercise... > > <sigh> > > :-) > > -Ben > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Erika L. Walker-Arnold [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > Sent: Saturday, April 06, 2002 2:52 PM > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > > > > > > > Having been in a very, very long (8 years), good/bad > > > relationship with a man > > > who has a gambling problem, that codependency thing .... it's > > > a hard thing > > > to shake. > > > > > > We know the man is a loser...or should I say, not right for > > > us, but we love > > > them. We think they need us, because nothing else is right in > > > their lives > > > .. only to find out, we were not anywhere close to the top of their > > > priority list, no matter how much they said we were. > > > > > > He was never mean to me. Helped with the dishes, the laundry, did the > > > shopping, but in the end, because of gambling, everything > > > disintegrated. I > > > ended up supporting the both of us. > > > > > > It took me two years to break up with him, because it killed > > > me to hurt him, > > > but in the end it was only hurting me, but I have to say, I > > > would do it all > > > over again, because the path I took led me to Phil, the > > > choices I made, gave > > > me the opportunity to be where I am today. We had tons of > > > great times, but > > > I'll never forget the lessons I learned. > > > > > > She may, someday, see that she is in a dead-end road, and > > > hopefully, she > > > will have learned something. > > > > > > Erika > > > ------------------------------------------------------------ > > > > > > >>|-----Original Message----- > > > >>|From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > >>| > > > >>|Because she is a pitiful codependent freak. > > > >>| > > > >>|----- Original Message ----- > > > >>|From: "Howard Owens" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > >>|To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > >>|Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 9:38 PM > > > >>|Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > >>| > > > >>| > > > >>|> Why does she stay with this loser? > > > >>|> > > > >>|> One of the discussions my wife and I have all the time -- > > > >>|cause it drives > > > >>|> her up the wall -- is women who make bad choices in > > > >>|boyfriends/husbands. > > > >>|> She has a couple of friends who have been in one bad > > > relationship after > > > >>|> another. When she tells them they should find a nice stable guy, > > > >>|employed, > > > >>|> a little nerdy, not living the fast life, they say, "Oh, a guy > > > >>|like that > > > >>|> wouldn't be enough of a challenge; he wouldn't be > > > interesting enough." > > > >>|Some > > > >>|> women want it all -- a guy who is wild, carefree, dangerous, > > > >>|but doesn't > > > >>|> sleep around or abuse them or use them. Good luck > > > finding that guy. > > > >>|> > > > >>|> H. > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> -----Original Message----- > > > >>|> From: Beth F [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 1:55 PM > > > >>|> To: CF-Community > > > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> I forgot the kicker- he spends all her money on drugs too > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> ----- Original Message ----- > > > >>|> From: "Larry C. Lyons" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > >>|> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 11:54 AM > > > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > Seems to me that friend's husband is thinking he has a > > > >>|pretty good deal, > > > >>|> > she supports him, cleans up after him, etc. It sounds > > > like he has a > > > >>|> servant > > > >>|> > rather than a wife. > > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > larry > > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > At 09:46 AM 4/5/02 -0900, you wrote: > > > >>|> > > > Wait a minute. What about when a woman marries a man > > > >>|who tells her > > > >>|> that > > > >>|> > >it is her responsibility to cook, clean, etc.? Isn't > > > her choice to > > > >>|marry > > > >>|> a > > > >>|> > >man like that the same as choosing it herself? Do you take > > > >>|issue with > > > >>|> what > > > >>|> > >she's being told to do or the fact that she's being told to do > > > >>|anything? > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > >Well as far as my relationships go, I personally don't > > > >>|think partners > > > >>|> should > > > >>|> > >TELL each other to do anything - they ask. > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > >If both the woman and the man feel that its her job > > > to do all the > > > >>|cooking > > > >>|> > >and cleaning then its her choice. > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > >But i have a friend who is married to a guy who is jobless. > > > >>|He stays at > > > >>|> home > > > >>|> > >with a four year old but refuses to do any cooking, > > > >>|cleaning or laundry > > > >>|> or > > > >>|> > >shopping.... She asked him to pitch in and he said > > > "What am I, the > > > >>|> maid?" > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > >So he feels its her job to do all of the working, cleaning, > > > >>|cooking and > > > >>|> > >laundry because he isnt' the maid (i.e. because he > > > isn't female). > > > >>|Thats > > > >>|> > >bullshit, plain and simple. > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>| > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ Your ad could be here. Monies from ads go to support these lists and provide more resources for the community. http://www.fusionauthority.com/ads.cfm Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
