> -----Original Message----- > From: BethF [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Sunday, December 08, 2002 10:44 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: Re: Warning: This may offend if religious > > > > Talking to a few homosexuals I don't think that genes are the only > > factor that caused them to be homosexual, or even a factor to be > > considered in some cases. What about just free choice? They like > > homosexual sex better? Decided to experiment? > > since there is a great deal of biological evidence to support > biological causes for homosexuality, i dont' think it has > anything to do with "free choice". I do think there are > environmental factors, but its nothing that one chooses conciously.
Of course, to play devil's advocate (and perhaps give Beth the benefit of the doubt) it could play a part. The mind is powerful and I'm sure that somebody could choose to lead a homosexual lifestyle (there's that word again), but not, in fact be homosexual (although common as people think this is/was common enough in stressful situations like prison and extended isolation). However, and let me stress this, such a choice doesn't make somebody a homosexual. By the same token somebody who is intuitively attracted to the same sex, but chooses a heterosexual lifestyle is still a homosexual. The point being that your thoughtless urges, your gut attractions are very difficult to choose. They may be the result of nature or nuture (or both) and are something you may hide, but are not something that you can choose to change. Do you like legs? Butts? Eyes, ears, toes or toungues? Now try to choose NOT to like them... It's not something that we do easily. > > Are BiSexuals also 'controlled' by their genetic makeup? > > > > How come the thinking, reasoning human being suddenly has > no 'choice' > > when it comes to sex and sexual orientation but is instead > driven by > > some predetermined genetic code? > > > > What of the fact that most of the homosexuals I know have had very > > hard childhoods with very bd relations with one or both parents, or > > were victims of abuse? > > perhaps because your sample is extremely small > the gay men i know knew they were gay from a very young age, > like before i was aware of such things. As are most of my friends. I also people close to me that spent many years in heterosexual relationships but are now out of the closet... In all cases that I've heard this is a decision to "follow their hearts" (or, if you prefer a more base interpertation, their genitalia). But there are ALWAYS shades of grey. I've known people that admittedly prefer hetersexual sex, but cannot find happiness in hetersexual relationships and of course there are cases where the opposite is true. Jim Davis ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Signup for the Fusion Authority news alert and keep up with the latest news in ColdFusion and related topics. http://www.fusionauthority.com/signup.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
