John, Thank you so much for the advice!
I think Will may be realizing that, and it's why he's so upset. (Think: "OK, this is all I've wanted to do and trained for. It's not working. Now what??") He was telling us recently about the chef where he used to work - mid-30's, still renting an apartment, no social life, not much chance to advance. It's like the acting profession - a few mega-stars, and most having a "real job" to pay the bills. Almost that bad in my wife's field, architecture - except that she is getting a quite decent wage and benefits drafting subdivisions. So, maybe as BenD says, he needs to have some "sh#t" jobs to pay the rent while he completes an academic education and looks for another career. <sigh> -DADABEN -- my CA license plate, BTW. Wife's is MAMANEL <grin>. At 12:39 PM 2/21/03 -0500, you wrote: >Ben, I trained for 3 years in New Orleans as a chef, and worked another >couple in and for various restaurants, both private and corporate so I can >tell you with all due respect that he should run, not walk from this line of >work. He should bite the bullet and do it now before he gets too into it. >There is hardly any money in the field, it is horrible hours and no career >potential unless he is in the top 1% of his field. I know alot of people in >this field and most are unhappy with where they are. > >I am not trying to scare you or anything, but just telling you straight up >what happened with me and my family. > >When I figuired this out, I had a mortgage and two children. It was pretty >tough changing careers mid-stride like that, but I look back now and am so >glad that I did. > > > >-----Original Message----- >From: Ben Braver [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] >Sent: Friday, February 21, 2003 12:06 PM >To: CF-Community >Subject: Seeking a little sympathy > > >hi gang, > >Another real bummer with the 22-year-old son. > >He's been working as a banquet cook and fills in at the pantry station in >the line restaurant sometimes. >It's a "boutique hotel" with a huge, deluxe fitness club attached. >The restaurant serves the hotel, the club, and hopefully the general public. >But the sales and marketing person (who just got fired) did a lousy job of >publicizing it to the community. >Between that and the economy, business has been lousy. >Most of the restaurant staff have had their hours cut. >Yesterday, my son found out he's being laid off (via a voice mail message). > >So, it's gone from bad (no roommate and not enough hours to make ends >meet), to worse (no job). >This is the third horse he's had shot out from under him since getting out >of the cooking school. > >He's pretty bummed out. >So am I - his moving home would create a virtual (or real) war zone. >And subsidizing him until he gets up to speed on a new job (or jobs) and a >roommate would be hard financially, especially when we're finally getting a >handle on the budjet. ><heavy sigh> > >My wife went over to "just be there" last night. >(He only wanted "Mom" there.) >She suggested he get real and go for a job at Starbucks or something just >to make rent. > >Yes, I know the economy is rough right now. >But I cringe at the idea of financing an education at the California >Culinary Academy for him to end up at Starbucks. > >I think the problem may be that he doesn't have fast enough knife and >"production" skills to keep up with the chefs' expectations - he loves food >and cooking, but isn't the most coordinated person. (You should see his >handwriting!) And he doesn't have the "fire" (drive) and confidence to >charge into the typical line kitchen and take it by storm. (Pardon the >mixed metaphors.) > >Yeah, I'm sure it will work out for him and us. >Just feeling a little bummed and looking for some kind words from a bunch >of great people. > >Have a nice weekend, everyone. > >-Ben > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Signup for the Fusion Authority news alert and keep up with the latest news in ColdFusion and related topics. http://www.fusionauthority.com/signup.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
