Thanks, Tim. Part of it is my fault, I admit. But he can't admit the same thing. Maybe he'll have the "Mark Twain" moment before I die. Hope so. (My Dad died when I was 18 and a lot of stuff was hanging.)
-Ben At 01:52 PM 2/21/03 -0500, you wrote: >Ben, > A little encouragement. My father and I couldn't stand each other >for years. I have to admit my own part fully, I was wild and liked to >party. I was emancipated at 16 and we didn't speak for a couple of years. >I think his letting me fall flat on my face, and all the struggles that we >had in our relationship, only served to make me a better person, and to >cement the relationship that my father and I now enjoy. > > I only hope that I have the strength that men like you and my dad >show now that I have my own sons. > >Tim > >-----Original Message----- >From: Ben Braver [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] >Sent: Friday, February 21, 2003 12:06 PM >To: CF-Community >Subject: Seeking a little sympathy > > >hi gang, > >Another real bummer with the 22-year-old son. > >He's been working as a banquet cook and fills in at the pantry station in >the line restaurant sometimes. >It's a "boutique hotel" with a huge, deluxe fitness club attached. >The restaurant serves the hotel, the club, and hopefully the general public. >But the sales and marketing person (who just got fired) did a lousy job of >publicizing it to the community. >Between that and the economy, business has been lousy. >Most of the restaurant staff have had their hours cut. >Yesterday, my son found out he's being laid off (via a voice mail message). > >So, it's gone from bad (no roommate and not enough hours to make ends >meet), to worse (no job). >This is the third horse he's had shot out from under him since getting out >of the cooking school. > >He's pretty bummed out. >So am I - his moving home would create a virtual (or real) war zone. >And subsidizing him until he gets up to speed on a new job (or jobs) and a >roommate would be hard financially, especially when we're finally getting a >handle on the budjet. ><heavy sigh> > >My wife went over to "just be there" last night. >(He only wanted "Mom" there.) >She suggested he get real and go for a job at Starbucks or something just >to make rent. > >Yes, I know the economy is rough right now. >But I cringe at the idea of financing an education at the California >Culinary Academy for him to end up at Starbucks. > >I think the problem may be that he doesn't have fast enough knife and >"production" skills to keep up with the chefs' expectations - he loves food >and cooking, but isn't the most coordinated person. (You should see his >handwriting!) And he doesn't have the "fire" (drive) and confidence to >charge into the typical line kitchen and take it by storm. (Pardon the >mixed metaphors.) > >Yeah, I'm sure it will work out for him and us. >Just feeling a little bummed and looking for some kind words from a bunch >of great people. > >Have a nice weekend, everyone. > >-Ben > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Get the mailserver that powers this list at http://www.coolfusion.com Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
