You should NOT confront this person. If you have not been able to resolve this with your supervisor, you should take it to your HR department. The legal system has become increasingly intolerant of abusive behavior in the workplace.
You must memorialize every aspect of this to preserve your rights. Note dates and times along with witnesses. If possible, consult an attorney who specializes in this area. If you do see an attorney, sooner is better. Cary Gordon At 06:57 AM 3/13/2003 -0700, you wrote: >1) I think I will have to resort to this, unfortunately. >2) I've done this multiple times. >3) One of the uber-managers has already had discussions with him about his >behavior. > >I get along well with my manager. I swear this guy is impotent though when >it comes to issues like this. Nothing's changed for about a year. If >anything, it's gotten worse. > >Many of my work colleagues feel the same way. They have resorted to talking >to him when necessary. But I don't think they found his recent comments as >offensive as I have. > >I am going to talk to my manager today, believe me. I may just ask for some >time off to look for other opportunities. > >Other issue: I don't want to work with an anti-Semite (which he is). I've >had enough prejudice applied to me throughout my life. I know how it feels >like. Gawd knows how he really feels about me. > > >----- Original Message ----- >From: "Adam Reynolds" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Sent: Thursday, March 13, 2003 2:55 AM >Subject: RE: What should I do? > > > > The simplest thing to do is > > 1) Get a witness or multiple witnesses to the event(s) that are prepared >to > > back you up. Document the incidents. A diary is very important to enable >you > > to prove that this was not a one off, but consistant abuse by the guy. GET > > people to sign the diary entries as witnesses. This will take some time, >but > > is important. > > 2) Discuss with your manager if possible, stating that you are to raise >the > > issue with personnel/uber-manager and would like his/her support in this > > matter. > > 3) Go to personnel/uber-manager with issues. > > > > You should discuss these issues on a one on one basis with your manager. > > What is your relationship like with your manager? Does the other guy go > > drinking with your manager? > > > > Talk to your work colleagues. Ask them if they feel the same way. Are you > > over-reacting because you think the guy is a techno-idiot and it winds you > > up that he has the ear of the boss? So now even the slightest >comment/sneeze > > from the guy really REALLY annoys the hell out of you. How arrogant are >you? > > Is it a personality clash? > > > > You could also politely ask the guy(in private, then in front of all other > > people if he doesn't stop) to refrain from the racist comments. > > > > You should also be prepared to leave. You won't regret leaving. > > > > TELL your manager you are thinking about leaving due to this individual's > > behaviour. How can he help you if he does not know how serious things are? > > Worst mistake you can do is just hand in your notice. The other guy WON! > > > > Your manager NEEDS to understand how SERIOUS this is and that you are > > prepared to take radical steps to resolve this unhappy bit of your life. > > > > Hope I haven't offended :) > > > > HTH > > Adam > > > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Kwang Suh [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > Sent: 13 March 2003 06:19 > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: Re: What should I do? > > > > > > > > > I'm not trying to make a statement. I find this person to be so >offensive > > > that I don't think I can handle it anymore. To give you an idea of this > > > guy's thinking processes, he recommended to our boss that we switch to >MS > > > Access for all our development, because it can make charts. He's >supposed > > > to be a "solutions" architect. My co-worker had to beg to the boss not >to > > > do this (yes, our boss was actually considering the recommendation > > > seriously). > > > > > > Like the idea about the keyboard. Will have to file that one. > > > > > > > Well, personally I see no need to screw yourself over financially >simply > > > > to make a statement that will seemingly fall on deaf ears anyway. > > > > > > > > If you get no satisfaction from official channels try staying late >some > > > > late and crazy-gluing his space bar down. I'm pretty sure that you > > > > won't here any political rants that day. > > > > > > > > Personally I'm an atheist... We make our own Karma. ;^) > > > > > > > > Jim Davis ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Your ad could be here. Monies from ads go to support these lists and provide more resources for the community. http://www.fusionauthority.com/ads.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
