its hard to show empathy when people are rude and insult you simply because they don't like the answer or the fact that you don't agree with them. These people should try getting married then they will quickly learn that sometimes oyu must bite the bullet and admit your wrong even if you think your right :-) I think Dave has earned the right to be a hard-ass occasionally given the amount of help he gives others on here.
On Fri, Nov 11, 2011 at 10:23 PM, Rick Faircloth <[email protected]> wrote: > > "The 'correct' answer is the one you get"... wrong. > > It's almost never the one you get, whether technically > or psychologically. > > It's easy just to be a hard-ass all the time. I know from > personal experience. It's more difficult to show empathy > when it's needed, rather than try to rebut someone's > personal perspective, which cannot usually be proven wrong. > > People who mature learn to tell the difference > and act appropriately. > > > -----Original Message----- > From: Dave Watts [mailto:[email protected]] > Sent: Friday, November 11, 2011 1:06 PM > To: cf-talk > Subject: Re: Adobe drops Flsh for mobile devices > > >> True, but I see almost no empathy when people are expressing broader issue > concerns rather than >> issues of a technical nature. Therein lies the clue to the correct > response. > > You want empathy? Go to a shrink or talk to your bartender. > > On a free mailing list, the "correct" response is the one you get, not > the one you want. And these "broader issue concerns" typically don't > have any positive resolution, have been brought up countless times, > etc, etc. Saying "CF is dying" on a CF technical list isn't really an > appropriate statement for the list. And of course, it always turns out > that CF is dying because you don't like what Adobe is doing with it, > which is beyond the control of everyone on the list - whether you > agree with it or not. You know, I think it would actually be OK if > someone asked how to help CF, but that's never what these "concerns" > are about. It's all about your dislike for Adobe's marketing plan, or > pricing, or whatever. Well, this is not the place for that. > >> Sometimes the technician, sometimes the counselor. > > No one pays me to be a counselor. On here, no one pays me to be a > technician either, so I reserve the right to answer questions as I see > fit. > > Dave Watts, CTO, Fig Leaf Software > http://www.figleaf.com/ > http://training.figleaf.com/ > > Fig Leaf Software is a Veteran-Owned Small Business (VOSB) on > GSA Schedule, and provides the highest caliber vendor-authorized > instruction at our training centers, online, or onsite > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Order the Adobe Coldfusion Anthology now! http://www.amazon.com/Adobe-Coldfusion-Anthology/dp/1430272155/?tag=houseoffusion Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-talk/message.cfm/messageid:348680 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-talk/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-talk/unsubscribe.cfm
