Just to flip this on it's head a bit... (playing devils advocate) If you're a good wedding photographer then you certainly should be good enough to shoot your friends wedding. In fact if you're getting invited to your friends wedding then you're not going to get paid at all that day because you're not shooting anybodies wedding. Maybe it is better to just go ahead and shoot theirs but tell them the costs involved (especially the costs of processing after the wedding) so that they realise they can't expect more than 20% discount on a standard wedding. After all if your friend was a house builder, would he/she give you more than 20% off if they built your house ?
Not trying to inflame but maybe add another angle. A big downside is that you won't really get involved in the wedding and you'll miss the true meaning of the wedding as you'll be involved in the technical side of capturing the event. But then again at least you get to spend more time with them before and after the ceremony... So I guess you become a little closer. -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Kotsinadelis, Peter (Peter) Sent: Tuesday, 21 March 2006 10:18 AM To: [email protected] Subject: RE: EOS My stuff and wedding Skip wrote: My father had a very sage comment on this very subject, "The best way to lose a friend is to shoot his wedding." My rule of thumb is to never photograph a wedding to which we would be invited. Since my wife and I shoot weddings, I have had several "friends" ask us to do theirs, of course at a steep "friendly" discount. This rule avoids that issue. If they really are good enough friends to invite us to the wedding, then, generally, either they wouldn't ask us in the first place, or they certainly understand our feelings on the matter. Hey, we just want to have fun with our friends, not have the pressure of getting all the important images and forego socializing, which is the only choice. If they are not good enough friends to invite us to their wedding, then they certainly don't qualify for the "friendly" discount... Skip Middleton -------------------------------------------------------------- Skip, that is excellent advice. I have seen this cause grief for friends and myself. NOTICE This e-mail and any attachments are confidential and may contain copyright material of Macquarie Bank or third parties. If you are not the intended recipient of this email you should not read, print, re-transmit, store or act in reliance on this e-mail or any attachments, and should destroy all copies of them. Macquarie Bank does not guarantee the integrity of any emails or any attached files. The views or opinions expressed are the author's own and may not reflect the views or opinions of Macquarie Bank. * **** ******* *********************************************************** * For list instructions, including unsubscribe, see: * http://www.a1.nl/phomepag/markerink/eos_list.htm ***********************************************************
