Barry takes authenticity and honesty, or their lack, as tools for manipulating responses from others on here. That is his entire game; using his writing skills to plant emotional triggers in his posts calculated to set others off.
He doesn't care if he said the exact opposite the day before, or makes stuff up. Its all about Hah - you flinched! That's it, and that's all there is. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <jstein@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Xenophaneros Anartaxius" <anartaxius@> > wrote: > <snip> > > In other words, on the forum, he is not typically socially > > engaging, and my experience with women indicates they > > usually require some socially engaging etiquette to feel > > comfortable, and Barry does not provide this. I am not > > saying I would know how to provide this either. > > I'm not sure how well these generalizations hold in any > specific circumstance, especially on a forum like this. > For one thing, there's a lot of variation among both > women and men with regard to the need for socially > engaging behavior; and for another, an electronic forum > deals strictly in words, with no cues from facial > expressions or tone of voice or body language. In terms > of your generalizations, that would seem to favor men > and frustrate women. Perhaps women who are comfortable > in this setting tend to be those who require less in the > way of socially engaging etiquette. > > Some of the men here do provide such etiquette, at least > at times (Curtis, for example, and, interestingly, > MaskedZebra), but in my observation, most do not. That > has never bothered me (in fact, sometimes I deliberately > ignore an offer of social engagement because I sense > it's a tactic, deliberate or unconscious). > > <snip> > > But it is his stand-offishness with regard to feelings > > and an unwillingness to engage that drives many to > > distraction here > > I don't think that drives anybody to distraction, Xeno. > As I said in another post, I think the primary annoyance > is with his inauthenticity (from his propensity to tell > deliberate, malicious falsehoods all the way down to > his appalling lack of self-knowledge). > > That's certainly *my* problem with him--not that he > doesn't engage, but that he's fundamentally a phony, a > fraud. Authenticity and honesty are baseline values, > as far as I'm concerned. > > For a recent example of Barry's dishonesty, see this post: > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/message/281603 >
