--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" <curtisdeltablues@...> wrote: > > Do a search on the numerous times I have discussed > dissociation, often about my own experiences with it, to > see why Judy didn't quote from any of them. but instead, > went to Wiki to not only change the context, but to > change the actual term to depersonalization and > dereaization to make it all sound more dramatic.
Oh, my, none of this is true. See the whole discussion between Curtis, me, and Ravi here: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/message/341877 If you'd like to discuss the untruthfulness of your paragraph above, Curtis, I'd be happy to indulge you. Just let me know. I don't imagine you'll want to go into it, though. (So interesting how Curtis freely attributes negative motivations to others but screams bloody murder whenever anyone does that to him, isn't it?) > My point had nothing to do with that, but I never got to it because you > followed Judy down the rabbit hole. (tip of the hat to Richard) > > When you dissociate from your emotions here as reflected in your language, > you start your abusive routine. It is very obvious to me. Trouble with this is that, as in the case Curtis was referring to, in his "abusive routines," Ravi will stick in a third-person reference to himself (which amounts, according to Curtis, to Ravi "dissociating" from his emotions) here and there in the middle of material that is in first-person: "You would be an idiot if you think I haven't or don't interact with Bob and/or Robin directly and like you suspect I have and do love, respect both - the last time I checked they haven't undergone any sex change. "Let me tell you a secret, if you are a man - the feeling of being loved and respected by Ravi after being baited and challenged by him is one of the most awesomest feelings. So unless I take fancy to someone everyone has to go through this process. "I regret to say it but only a few have tasted that and based upon your current behavior your chances to succeed are very slim in light of your behavior discussed on this thread. "Of course as you know Ravi is always ever open, relaxed and alert even as he challenges and confronts - so you may have good chance if you follow the below - we have already discussed this but considering your disability I am summarizing and reiterating it again" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/message/341769 > > Dissociation (as I have discussed at length here, has a useful function in > certain contexts, and is not pathological unless you are stuck in it and > can't choose to associate into our feelings. My point to you had nothing to > do with that extreme of the spectrum. > > You are too busy doing troll work to have a discussion with Ravi, so I > immediately lost interest. > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Ravi Chivukula <chivukula.ravi@> wrote: > > > > Well stop obscuring my point. > > > > I said - Your response to Emily was cold, hostile, self-righteous and > > contemptuous. You didn't address anything about misinterpretation in your > > response. Where was the acknowledgement of Emily's POV? Was she a robot - > > was she not entitled to her feelings - unless you think she's lying about > > her feelings? Since this in light of Share's accusation perhaps referring > > to Robin's responses may help? > > > > You know what Curtis baby - you don't show any fucking sensitivity (did you > > even read the sample response?) and that's a pattern with you - remember > > your post on disassociation. No - there's no revealing of my shallow agenda > > - it's revealing of your patterns. > > > > > > > > On Fri, Apr 26, 2013 at 9:25 PM, curtisdeltablues < > > curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > Sensitive Ravi to the rescue. Right, got it. > > > > > > It was not a gang rape lyric, that was a misinterpretation. > > > > > > But that distinction will not interest you because you are a troll and > > > your posting intentions are unfriendly. > > > > > > You think you are "getting" a person Judy does not like and winning her > > > approval, but instead you are revealing yourself and your shallow agenda. > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Ravi Chivukula <chivukula.ravi@> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > I think a lot of men have incredible difficulty expressing empathy but > > > this > > > > one seems very cold-hearted and dismissive, as if the person asking > > > > these > > > > questions had no right to these feelings and/or was irrational for even > > > > trying to communicate that, viz "I have no idea why you write any of > > > this" > > > > - I wonder if this is narcissism, disassociation and/or psychopathy? > > > > > > > > Anyway here's one way I would respond assuming I was innocent. > > > > > > > > "Dear Emily - I am so sorry to hear that you were disturbed by the gang > > > > rape lyrics. Looking back it was probably not a good idea to post it or > > > > I > > > > should have cautioned you that the lyrics had references to gang rape - > > > in > > > > this day and age one should always be aware that there could be some who > > > > would get affected by that, especially victims and family members of > > > > victims harmed by sexual violence. But rest assured Emily I had no > > > > intentions to PR you, my intentions was just to share some music with a > > > > fellow music-lover and in retrospect I should have known that some > > > > people > > > > may have found it offensive. I hope you are feeling better." > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > On Fri, Apr 26, 2013 at 8:51 PM, authfriend <authfriend@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hmm, as much as Curtis asserts that his goal is "to be > > > > > understood by other people here," it doesn't seem that > > > > > he is willing to respond to the question Emily asked > > > > > him: Why did he make a point of calling her attention > > > > > to a verse about gang rape? Instead he just wipes out > > > > > her context as if it had never existed. > > > > > > > > > > Obviously she found it disturbing. Why wouldn't he > > > > > respond--unless that's what he wanted, for her to be > > > > > disturbed? > > > > > > > > > > Man, there are very creepy things going on on this > > > > > forum lately. > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" > > > > > <curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > I have no idea why you would write any of this. > > > > > > > > > > > > I shared music with you that I perform in my show. It has no meaning > > > > > directed toward you except I thought I was sharing interesting music > > > with > > > > > another music lover. > > > > > > > > > > > > To be clear: There are no hidden messages or meanings directed > > > > > > toward > > > > > you by any music I ever shared with you on this board, ever. There are > > > no > > > > > hidden messages toward you in anything I have ever written to you > > > here. I > > > > > have tried to be clear about what I meant at all times because my goal > > > is > > > > > to be understood by other people here. > > > > > > > > > > > > Lets chill on sharing music. It apparently isn't working. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "emilymae.reyn" > > > <emilymae.reyn@> > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Curtis: Hey, I was just responding to Xeno on his psychological > > > rape > > > > > > > post and this spontaneously came off my fingertips: > > > > > > > "nor did I [feel psychologically raped] recently, when Curtis > > > referred > > > > > > > me to the gang rape lyrics of a song he posted. I probably should > > > have > > > > > > > then, come to think about it, but I just figured I had crossed his > > > > > > > boundary again, unknowingly, like I did the first time. I was > > > teasing > > > > > > > him; he got angry...." > > > > > > > God bless it, were you trying to publicly PR me? Did I not pick up > > > on > > > > > > > that? I'm kind of slow on the uptake sometimes, it's true. You > > > never > > > > > > > did explain to me why you referred me to the lyrics you did. If > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > were, than I say "Fuck you, man, fuck you." If you weren't than > > > maybe > > > > > > > you could explain it to me. Am I right in my assumption above? > > > > > > > I know you ain't a country guy, in terms of music, but here's a > > > song > > > > > > > from George Jones - RIP, that may bring you back to a performance > > > > > period > > > > > > > that would be best left forever. > > > > > > > http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Onfce-UNmmE > > > > > > > <http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Onfce-UNmmE> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
