Bianca Gibson
<> writes:

> I agree there. To me, were a lot of groups tend to fall short is
> including women or other minorities in the group without making us
> feel like the odd one out. Very similar stuff can be said for age,
> someone I know that is male and went to his first LUG at 15 felt like
> the odd one out, the next youngest person was 21 and he found it
> daunting.

Here is a relevant article, on the experiences of women and the sexism
they encounter in what may be today's most-respected scientific project

As that article explores, sexism in such environments is less often
overt harrassment, and much more often an atmosphere of being treated as
strange and otherly, in somewhat contradictory juxtaposition with a
plaintive why-can't-we-treat-them-like-the-boys attitude.

> If I'm complemented like the example I don't take it in a bad way, to
> me it's just a complement.

Thanks for that perspective.

I must make conscious effort to give that account more weight than my
internal imaginings of “how would I feel if everything else was the same
but I was a woman”. That can't apply: if I were a woman, *huge swaths*
of my upbringing would have been quite different, and “if everything
else was the same” would not be the case.

So, as is the case far more often than we might like to admit: it's not
about me. I have to listen to others describe their experiences, and
suspend my own bafflement at not being able to empathise completely.

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