In classical psychology, it's the Madonna-Whore complex. In modern culture, Ludacris calls out for "a Lady in the streets but a freak in the bed!" The clash of puritanical public values with animalistic private sexual desires creates a conflict that men (and less often women) who are not honest with themselves and/or their partners often express extra-relationally. In the ideal Eros relationship (ever IMHO), honest communication and a desire to please the other allows for mutual open exploration of the poles of desire, negating the desire to engage in such dalliances. Despite a variety of cultural relational phenotypes to choose from, I believe monogamy to be the Eros ideal.
On Wed, May 6, 2009 at 11:06 PM, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > Somewhat over-long as I remember Chris. An old French mate of mine > kept two mistresses - one who treated him like a mother. He was > somewhat surprised that I didn't approve, even suspecting I was in > love with his wife because of this. Sadly, I was only in love with > her cooking and brilliant sense of humour. He was a very gentle soul, > except when it came to arresting blaggers known to use violence and > intimidation on women. > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/Minds-Eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
