We all play roles to "fit in" or "get along" at various points in our lives, gruff, and most of us do not live our lives like a recipe. The truth can be very cruel- especially to children- who often have enough to cope with without the advantages of mature emotions and perspective. And some individuals do not deserve honesty until they earn that intimacy. Some never do. There is a concept of "situational friendships" which comes into play in this matter and another is the discretion of borders. But in regard to families- parents and children- it still is an uneven power structure so it is hard to say how the complete truth would have caused less harm or altered lives for the better- that is just wishful thinking, perhaps. And I do defend my "editing" of certain truths as I see no value in the additional burden since children do take on some of the guilt and shame of their parent's behavior.
On Jul 9, 8:01 am, gruff <[email protected]> wrote: > "... On Jul 9, 5:23 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: ..." > > > Another reason fire was invented- burn the evidence! It took me > > decades to unscramble some family history or figure out probablitlies > > so I suppose I have lived a lie. But I would never put the truth in > > writing for my children to read and each has developed their own myths > > and lies. Perhaps it protects the Ego. At any rate, governments must > > do the same to protect their image- they "justify it in the end". > > Aye, Rigsy. Your penchant for avoiding the truth is well-noted. > Have you ever seriously considered the harm lies cause?
