"... On Jul 10, 7:00 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: ..."
> Baggage can be very interesting and entertaining, as well. But I think > you are referring to major unsolved emotional problems which affects > any and all relationships. I read several works by feminists back in > the '70's and thought them pretty much sour grapes but by then I was > married and somewhat indifferent since life had a different rhythm. I'm not being ad hominem but that indifference I think may be deeper and longer than just the duration of your married life. I have detected it in numerous postings of yours and ... > I am treated well when I am out and about- doors opened, bags carried, > etc. but then, I am a gracious creature! :-) Yesterday, I received a > lovely thank you note from the young man next door for my graduation > gift and I sighed with relief- that a young man took the time to > actually write a note and the other memories he included. All is not > lost! ... again, what you speak of above ... this graciousness ... It's all superficial form with little substance and meaning, just like most of the Victorian era ethos and mores. Without some underlying honesty and intimacy, the form is merely mist that disappears in the first light of day. The problem with gracious public manners is that one never knows if they are based in genuine concern or appreciation or are merely form for it's own sake which is empty and vacuous. I'd much rather someone let the door slam in my face than hold it open for me while muttering obscenities under their breath.
