You are free to establish any profile you wish whether by recalled paraphrase or any other comment or reference made by me and it is helpful to know your summation- if it can be called that. It is a fact that most women friends my age who are single via choice, divorce or widowhood pretty much feel the same with a good deal of humour laced with a dash of sarcasm and would rather drink hemlock than be locked in another mating. Happily we live in a country that allows women a good deal of freedom depending on circumstances, of course. As far as hemlock, several men and women have begun exploring a tidy end after caring for parents in their 90's and not wishing it upon themselves- it's still in the joking stage but I wonder if that's how serious trends start.
Maybe I dislike needing men at all and wish I still had the energy to do the heavy lifting by myself- but I don't. So M is coming back this afternoon to try to rescue his work- for which he has been paid already- but I have lost confidence in him. Otherwise, I must wait in line for a handyman who has worked for several homes in the area. I have concluded it was idiotic for me to marry at all- just a complete waste of time, energy and money- but no one bothered to tell me that or they told me too late. However, motherhood was something I took to and am grateful for that experience. As for raising children without a male, it is quite possible to do successfully- just think of all the war widows over the centuries. All wombs are not created equal, gruff. But that is a different subject... On Jul 12, 9:50 am, gruff <[email protected]> wrote: > "... On Jul 12, 6:03 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: ..." > > > Yes- you do seem to be veering into a personal attack based on dislike > > rather than a difference of opinion. You are not my judge and jury, > > gruff- lighten up.//Society, including the law, government and the > > military would fall apart without standards of conduct and > > communication. > > I offered that as a means of disarming what might possibly have been > construed as an ad hominem attack. However, I was not attacking you > personally. I am pointing out contradictions in points and statements > you have made here and elsewhere. And I'm sorry but I do detect an > undercurrent of animosity toward men which is not without credence. > After all I'm something of an expert in women who have issues with > men. I came from a family of them which explains why there were no > men in my life growing up. None of them ever wanted to come home to > all the animosity. Of course I didn't figure that last part out until > I'd matured and put individual pieces together into a cogent picture. > > One particular comment of yours that has been stuck in my head for > quite some time -- and I'm paraphrasing here -- but I recall you once > saying you were afraid to hire a handyman to do some of work around > your house "... because all men are violent ..." and you were fearful > he'd kill you. That was the most prominent and revealing comment you > made which was why it stuck in my mind so vividly. It also explained > a lot of your other comments when talking about relationships. > > That's a lot of paranoia you exhibit and it has been substantiated by > numerous other, but less abrupt and concise statements which indicate > an irrational fear of men. > > Now granted, I've a similar mindset toward women given the character > and morality of the women who raised me but I try to maintain an > awareness of it and not let it affect my relationships with women -- > but it does in spite of my concerns. So I'll allow that some of what > you perceive as an ad hominem attack may be influenced by that but for > the most part, I'm merely stating what I see. You can take offense > at it or you can take it for what it's worth, but no animosity > attaches. At least not from this end. > > I'm just trying to explore human behavior and the reasons for it.
