"... On Jul 17, 1:40 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: ..."
> It is true- we tend to choose the love we have known as children- even > if it was dysfunctional- and perhaps foiled attempts are a way to > solve the original problem so we continue making the same mistakes- > until we wake up and deal with the issue. Yeah, I'd say that's pretty much how it works until we learn to change it. It's also the basis for the biblical truth that the sins of the fathers shall be visited upon the sons. There's a pattern in my line of the family that I thought I'd be the last of or at least I wanted to be. But come to find out it's been passed on for two further generations into the future. > I have had more men in my life than women and most of those > relationships have been positive so don't jump to conclusions about > me. Anyone can jump from the particular to the universal but it is > sloppy thinking. Yes, that true. It's called profiling and works very well which makes one wonder why it's illegal. One of these days I have to look up the legal rationale for making profiling illegal. It may just change my mind. A number of legal opinions have hat that effect on me. In this I mirror you. I've had more women in my life than men. But being honest every one of them wound up on the rocks, some getting very nasty on the way. I'd wager though that more than a fair amount of your men resembled daddy. I know most of mine were like mommy -- crazy, unstable, highly sexed -- that's where they had me. I could put up with or cure any problem of theirs if the sex was hot. And yet here we are today, for whatever reasons, living alone and appearing to like it that way. > Raising children alone can be successful but it is more difficult than > having a partner so gay couples probably have an advantage there. Yet > in the sweetest of marriages I see the tension over division of > "labor" among younger couples- mostly based on an impossible ideal > with the added stress that each child is a distinct personality and > trying to create a democratic atmosphere is a challenge. As usual, I'm one of those who ran away from the only child I ever had a chance to raise, but I've got some very definite ideas on how to raise a child. Guess those aren't the sort of credentials that make one a good source on the subject so I'll just keep my thoughts to myself other than to say that I know what I'd have liked from those around me when I was a child. And I know what I got. > I used to be more fearless but maybe age has quieted my risk taking > plus by this time, most of us have singed some feathers of our > plumage. Singed feathers never bothered me much -- I've flown into the sun a few times -- but I am definitely more aware of my mortality the older I get and as a result I'm much more cautious.
