Tis true, Allan, tis all too true.
On Jul 17, 11:19 pm, iam deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > Gruff, > the reason it is illegal it is easy to abuse and apply incorrectly. > Allan > > > > On Sun, Jul 18, 2010 at 8:07 AM, gruff <[email protected]> wrote: > > "... On Jul 17, 1:40 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: ..." > > > > It is true- we tend to choose the love we have known as children- even > > > if it was dysfunctional- and perhaps foiled attempts are a way to > > > solve the original problem so we continue making the same mistakes- > > > until we wake up and deal with the issue. > > > Yeah, I'd say that's pretty much how it works until we learn to change > > it. It's also the basis for the biblical truth that the sins of the > > fathers shall be visited upon the sons. There's a pattern in my line > > of the family that I thought I'd be the last of or at least I wanted > > to be. But come to find out it's been passed on for two further > > generations into the future. > > > > I have had more men in my life than women and most of those > > > relationships have been positive so don't jump to conclusions about > > > me. Anyone can jump from the particular to the universal but it is > > > sloppy thinking. > > > Yes, that true. It's called profiling and works very well which makes > > one wonder why it's illegal. One of these days I have to look up the > > legal rationale for making profiling illegal. It may just change my > > mind. A number of legal opinions have hat that effect on me. > > > In this I mirror you. I've had more women in my life than men. But > > being honest every one of them wound up on the rocks, some getting > > very nasty on the way. I'd wager though that more than a fair amount > > of your men resembled daddy. I know most of mine were like mommy -- > > crazy, unstable, highly sexed -- that's where they had me. I could > > put up with or cure any problem of theirs if the sex was hot. > > > And yet here we are today, for whatever reasons, living alone and > > appearing to like it that way. > > > > Raising children alone can be successful but it is more difficult than > > > having a partner so gay couples probably have an advantage there. Yet > > > in the sweetest of marriages I see the tension over division of > > > "labor" among younger couples- mostly based on an impossible ideal > > > with the added stress that each child is a distinct personality and > > > trying to create a democratic atmosphere is a challenge. > > > As usual, I'm one of those who ran away from the only child I ever had > > a chance to raise, but I've got some very definite ideas on how to > > raise a child. Guess those aren't the sort of credentials that make > > one a good source on the subject so I'll just keep my thoughts to > > myself other than to say that I know what I'd have liked from those > > around me when I was a child. And I know what I got. > > > > I used to be more fearless but maybe age has quieted my risk taking > > > plus by this time, most of us have singed some feathers of our > > > plumage. > > > Singed feathers never bothered me much -- I've flown into the sun a > > few times -- but I am definitely more aware of my mortality the older > > I get and as a result I'm much more cautious. > > -- > ( > ) > I_D Allan > > Be Paranoid. > God is always building a better idiot!!!
