Yes- you do seem to be veering into a personal attack based on dislike
rather than a difference of opinion. You are not my judge and jury,
gruff- lighten up.//Society, including the law, government and the
military would fall apart without standards of conduct and
communication.

On Jul 10, 1:56 pm, gruff <[email protected]> wrote:
> "... On Jul 10, 7:00 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: ..."
>
> > Baggage can be very interesting and entertaining, as well. But I think
> > you are referring to major unsolved emotional problems which affects
> > any and all relationships. I read several works by feminists back in
> > the '70's and thought them pretty much sour grapes but by then I was
> > married and somewhat indifferent since life had a different rhythm.
>
> I'm not being ad hominem but that indifference I think may be deeper
> and longer than just the duration of your married life.  I have
> detected it in numerous postings of yours and ...
>
> > I am treated well when I am out and about- doors opened, bags carried,
> > etc. but then, I am a gracious creature! :-) Yesterday, I received a
> > lovely thank you note from the young man next door for my graduation
> > gift and I sighed with relief- that a young man took the time to
> > actually write a note and the other memories he included. All is not
> > lost!
>
> ... again, what you speak of above ... this graciousness ...  It's all
> superficial form with little substance and meaning, just like most of
> the Victorian era ethos and mores.  Without some underlying honesty
> and intimacy, the form is merely mist that disappears in the first
> light of day.   The problem with gracious public manners is that one
> never knows if they are based in genuine concern or appreciation or
> are merely form for it's own sake which is empty and vacuous.
>
> I'd much rather someone let the door slam in my face than hold it open
> for me while muttering obscenities under their breath.

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