[Marsha]
> Isn't 'safety' a wishy-washy, soft word?
yes, it can be. I was using this word, safety,
to set up a point of departure in the discussion. I
notice you were saying to Platt, that Platt was being
too general. I used safety as the starting point, for
that's the starting point we use where I work.
Provide safety to the residents. All else stems from
this. If safety is not being provided, then we will
have more problems to deal with. If a resident that
has problems to begin with on their first day of
arrive at the facility doesn't feel safe, then we may
never actually get to the problems the resident had
BEFORE arrive to the facility and we will be dealing
with problems that stem from the resident not feeling
safe upon arrival.
[Marsha]
> Isn't it relative to each person's unique fears?
Oh, yes indeed. For example, a supervisor over
the weekend said to resident, a resident that was
threatening to "slap somebody" beside she didn't want
to do her community service, the supervisor said he
will call the "big boys" to come over if she will not
calm down. She continued to yell and scream, threaten
to hit people, so, they asked her repeatedly by this
time to go to the time out area. Eventually they had
to put hands-on the resident and physically escort her
to the time out area. She became VERY elevated after
the supervisor mentioned he'll call the "big boys" to
come over. Meaning, he'll call staff that are
physically tough enough to face her threats. Well,
she got upset even more after he said this due to he
past were boys ganged up on her. I don't know if she
was raped from this, or if the boys were playing
around with her as if she would get raped from her -
but this whole event at work brought out this
flash-back that was very violent in her personal
history. Now imagine other residents laughing at her.
Saying she is so wierd and so on. We would have to
deal with these other residents targeting her on a
daily basis. Would we ever make her feel safe? There
are going to be unique fears, such as what this
supervisor said, but this is a unique fear that this
resident never shared with anybody before. Staff were
doing their jobs to make her and others feel safe, but
taking her threats seriously. If we didn't take her
threats seriously, then what would the other residents
do and feel? I would say unsafe. When residents
begin acting more and more tough towards each other
and staff, it usually means something is going on that
is beginning to make them feel unsafe and they are
trying to show a toughness to protect themselves from
others. They are saying non-verbally and verbally,
"Don't mess with me - back off!"
[Marsha]
> And what does it have to do with playing in
> one's house? Or playing within one's self? From
> your country to another's country? When?
Five-years ago?
> Ten-years ago? Twenty-years ago? Thirty-years ago.
Forever?
> Do you think by birth a person must be wedded to the
Social Level?
> What are you talking about?
Is it safe for you to go outside and play?
SA
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