At 01:12 PM 8/22/2007, you wrote: > [Marsha] > > Isn't 'safety' a wishy-washy, soft word? > > yes, it can be. I was using this word, safety, >to set up a point of departure in the discussion. I >notice you were saying to Platt, that Platt was being >too general. I used safety as the starting point, for >that's the starting point we use where I work. >Provide safety to the residents. All else stems from >this. If safety is not being provided, then we will >have more problems to deal with. If a resident that >has problems to begin with on their first day of >arrive at the facility doesn't feel safe, then we may >never actually get to the problems the resident had >BEFORE arrive to the facility and we will be dealing >with problems that stem from the resident not feeling >safe upon arrival. > > [Marsha] > > Isn't it relative to each person's unique fears? > > Oh, yes indeed. For example, a supervisor over >the weekend said to resident, a resident that was >threatening to "slap somebody" beside she didn't want >to do her community service, the supervisor said he >will call the "big boys" to come over if she will not >calm down. She continued to yell and scream, threaten >to hit people, so, they asked her repeatedly by this >time to go to the time out area. Eventually they had >to put hands-on the resident and physically escort her >to the time out area. She became VERY elevated after >the supervisor mentioned he'll call the "big boys" to >come over. Meaning, he'll call staff that are >physically tough enough to face her threats. Well, >she got upset even more after he said this due to he >past were boys ganged up on her. I don't know if she >was raped from this, or if the boys were playing >around with her as if she would get raped from her - >but this whole event at work brought out this >flash-back that was very violent in her personal >history. Now imagine other residents laughing at her. > Saying she is so wierd and so on. We would have to >deal with these other residents targeting her on a >daily basis. Would we ever make her feel safe? There >are going to be unique fears, such as what this >supervisor said, but this is a unique fear that this >resident never shared with anybody before. Staff were >doing their jobs to make her and others feel safe, but >taking her threats seriously. If we didn't take her >threats seriously, then what would the other residents >do and feel? I would say unsafe. When residents >begin acting more and more tough towards each other >and staff, it usually means something is going on that >is beginning to make them feel unsafe and they are >trying to show a toughness to protect themselves from >others. They are saying non-verbally and verbally, >"Don't mess with me - back off!" > > [Marsha] > > And what does it have to do with playing in > > one's house? Or playing within one's self? From > > your country to another's country? When? >Five-years ago? > > Ten-years ago? Twenty-years ago? Thirty-years ago. > Forever? > > Do you think by birth a person must be wedded to the >Social Level? > > What are you talking about? > > Is it safe for you to go outside and play?
SA, I think the better question is, 'Is it safe for you to go inside and play?' Marsha Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org.uk/pipermail/moq_discuss_archive/
