On Sep 13, 2010, at 7:23 AM, Ian wrote:
> No I don't think it' particularly British. If I was to generalize, I might > say it was oriental - avoiding embarassing the people you deal with - I > happen to think it's actually a human trait. And don't forget it's only an > adage, not an axiom. > > First reaction should be to tackle personal difficulties, personally. But, > that's not a cover for opression or hegemony. Anyone having their "heart" > ignored has a right to make their argument public, but that's not the same as > saying all dirty washing should be aired in public. > > I happen to see making private contact as a sign of effort - interpreting as > Machiavellian or manipulative is in the eyes of a recipient with attitude, > rather than the sender, 9 times out of 10. > > Ian Ian, Not all private contact is a sign of effort. Some of it is mean-spirited. Maybe in this case it shouldn't have been my call, but... After my husband died I hooked up with a group of people I really liked. They were each really good and interesting individuals, but after a year they all seemed to have something negative to say about other group members 'in private'. Like I said, not all private contact is a sign of effort. Marsha > > > On 13 Sep 2010, at 12:01, MarshaV <[email protected]> wrote: > >> >> Hey Ian, >> >> Not meaning to offend, isn't your "Bad news in private, good news in public" >> an English (My mother's side is English.) perspective. If you were from a >> southern European country, might your perspective be different? And I >> remember during the 1970s, there was a prominent slogan within the Women's >> Movement that the personal was political. Being of German/English heritage, >> I can suffer greatly for exposing my feelings. >> >> Marsha >> >> >> >> >> On Sep 13, 2010, at 6:16 AM, Ian wrote: >> >>> Marsha, John, I hate to be the one defending dmb but offlist traffic is >>> good, when the subject matter is personal, for anyone concerned with >>> positive progress over damaging individuals. >>> >>> Bad news in private, good news in public is my own working adage, and >>> offlist mail is not unusual for you either Marsha, which is the only reason >>> you were mentioned ? >>> >>> DMB's style is dmb's style, on or offlist. Like his style or not, he's >>> consistent. >>> >>> Ian >>> >> >> Moq_Discuss mailing list >> Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. >> http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org >> Archives: >> http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ >> http://moq.org/md/archives.html > Moq_Discuss mailing list > Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. > http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org > Archives: > http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ > http://moq.org/md/archives.html ___ Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org/md/archives.html
